Women are so much the target of desire they dont understand why the lack of desire affect their partner
I know not all women are like that and I am happy that women are more and more open to talking about it. But this constatation hit me like a brick wall this morning. I was scrolling when I realized that a lot of women doesnt associate desire for sex and need for intimacy because of how much they receive of each compared to men.
To them its 2 different things (almost completly separate) and if a men receive intimacy from his partner he should be contempt with that because its what most important to them. Most women feel desired all their life, even before it should be expected, and sexualized. To them someone wanting to have sex with them is just normal compared to having a partner who wants to connect with them.
But most men will go for a long time without feeling desired, some will never. So when their partner who they choose to spend their life with stop desiring them it hit in a way a lot of women cant understand unless they make a real effort to see it from their point of view. Because their reality of what they lived through is so different. Same reason why some men dont understand why their partner rescent a decrease in other form of intimacy.
Where a lot of men in the past decades have make a significant effort to understand women better(genz are the most involved partner and father) women have been told repeteadly they arent responsible for their partner happiness. They have been told that men should be happy enough that they accept to spend their life with them that they shouldnt expect more. That they should always prioritize themself. But a relationship doesnt work like that. It takes two to tango.