Relationship ending
I’m a trans guy in my 30s and I’m currently going through a relationship crisis after my girlfriend admitted she had an affair.
We’ve built a whole life together (routines, family connections, shared history, emotional intimacy) but the erotic/sexual side of our relationship has been gone for about two years. We’re trying to understand whether this is something we can stay with or whether we’ve slowly become more like companions than partners.
What’s hitting me hardest right now is fear.
I’m terrified that if we break up, I’ll never find this kind of connection again as a trans man. My brain keeps telling me:
“What if this was my only chance to be fully loved, accepted, and understood?”
I know that probably sounds dramatic, but right now it feels very real.
I’ve been on T for almost 2 years, and transitioning changed me a lot emotionally, physically, and relationally. Part of me is scared of starting over, having to explain myself again, being vulnerable again, and wondering whether someone could truly desire me long term.
I guess I’m looking for:
- people who went through something similar,
- stories from trans guys who rebuilt their life after a breakup,
- advice on how to survive the shock of betrayal,
- or honestly just reassurance that life doesn’t end here.
Would really appreciate hearing from anyone who relates.