u/enlargedmilk

Hi all. I'm almost ready to fully launch my business however I came across the realization that, I don't actually know how booking with a realtor works. Obviously they'd book on my page, select a date but from there I don't really know what happens so, figured I'd ask you guys. Currently I can only handle one shoot per day so keep that restraint in mind.

They'd book a day, would they perhaps book a specific time..? What time do you guys prefer to shoot at, like 12pm when the sun is mostly directly overhead?

Once they book what happens after? I get a notification I'd imagine but then do I reach out? How would I even do that? Do I need the agent at the home while I'm shooting? Do they just give me the access code? (I'd hope not)

Should I have a "prep list" for staging for the realtor to give to the home owner?

Do you guys have them sign a contract stating terms of use, privacy policy and property rights of the images and whatnot? Would it be the realtor, home owner or both that sign it?

What else am I missing/what do you guys do?

Sorry for sounding so ignorant but any help in this domain would be greatly appreciated.

We started talking on a dating app about a year and a half ago, and have been dating for a little over a year now. Overall, the relationship is good. We've only had 2 disagreements, one was my fault (I wasn't listening in the heat of the moment) and the other was shared fault. We're both fairly emotionally mature, her a bit more so than me and we communicate well. We enjoy doing some similar things together - urban exploration, storm chasing, going out to watch the Aurora or other astronomical phenomena and cooking together. However, that's kind of where the relationship "ends" so to speak, it all feels very surface level, we never have deep conversations, not once. We don't explore abstract ideas together, talk about world issues, social issues or even share cultural connection at all, and it's just kind of how she is as a person. It's not wrong, it's just another personality type, but I'm worried it's incompatible with how I navigate the world.
She has about 2 interests and doesn't particularly "know" a whole lot about most things. I find myself having to explain almost anything I talk about, to the point where I sometimes wonder how she's made it this far as an adult, which I really hate thinking because I do love her and genuinely admire some of her traits, especially her creativity, maturity, how easy she is to get along with, her loyalty, the companionship and sharing things about my day, celebrating small wins and how supportive she is with me especially through hardship.
Other than these issues and the one I'll describe the near the end, she's almost perfect in every other way (a couple other very small things not worth mentioning or thinking about.) We've both been going through our own personal difficulties so, we're there for each other a lot. But even then when I'm talking about something I consider relatively common knowledge, she'll kind of just nod and agree a lot of time. She does struggle with socializing, and I've tried to help her with that (I'm on the spectrum and I've spent a lot of time learning how to be socially adept since I used to struggle in the same way, I consider myself fairly social now) but she has no real drive to, nor does she care to, unless it's for me which is unfair to her, so I've kinda stopped. We have talked about this, especially how I have to constantly ask if she even understands what I'm trying to talk about in nearly every conversation since she doesn't really ask questions at all (generally pretty basic things like "do you know this country I'm talking about?" And it's like South Korea or Norway or what leader is in power in our country and she won't know of it's existence or who it is, but won't say anything hence why it's so difficult to talk unless I constantly ask if she knows - it's gotten a little bit better but it's still very present) so conversing has just been super difficult, unless it's about my day, her day, food that looks good or a memory we have of our past. It gets repetitive. When I do try and engage her in something a little more abstract, the only replies I really get are "yeah" or a very simple answer, instead of helping to build the idea tower, she just stares at it. Not in an uninterested way, but just acknowledging its existence and waiting for me do to something with it. Her explanation is that just nothing comes to her head so she doesn't know what to say or ask. Or that she just "doesn't know." It all just feels incredibly surface level, and it keeps eating away at me. We are talking about it now, it's not the first time and she's aware of what's going on with what I'm thinking, so we're going to talk about it a bit more in depth the next time we see each other (we live about an hour apart).
It's like the relationship is good, there are no issues or red flags or abuse or hurt in any direction, but I feel like I'm craving a deeper connection than just talking about what's directly in front of us, or just *that day."
I've tried to outsource this need to try to fill that hole, but it doesn't help, if anything it makes it worse. I guess I need it filled in the relationship. I just feel horrible about this, I'm her first for literally everything, and she's such a sweet person but I also know I need to look after myself.
She's obviously very anxious about our future, especially considering I'm a lot more checked out than I used to be as a result. It's kinda always been in the back of my mind but given how much more serious our relationship has gotten, the thought of moving in together scares me, especially considering I'm a bit avoidant just as a personality trait anyway. I'm also seeing a general lack of drive or direction from her to really do anything with her life. She has aspirations but is taking very few steps if any to really make anything of them which concerns me greatly, especially if we're going to be sharing finances.
We also booked a campsite in August and I still want to go, but it's hard to say with all this.
I'm just looking for some advice and a sanity check. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Do I just need a mindset shift? Is it possible for me to just enjoy it for what it is? What should I do?

TLDR: the relationship is good, we enjoy doing things together, however it all feels incredibly surface level, especially conversation where there's no real depth past what we did that day, food to try or a memory we have. Unsure if wrong for feeling this way and would like some advice on how to proceed.

I guess I'll start by laying out some context:
We started talking on a dating app about a year and a half ago, and have been dating for a little over a year now. Overall, the relationship is good. We've only had 2 disagreements, one was my fault (I wasn't listening in the heat of the moment) and the other was shared fault. We're both fairly emotionally mature, her a bit more so than me and we communicate well. We enjoy doing some similar things together - urban exploration, storm chasing, going out to watch the Aurora or other astronomical phenomena and cooking together. However, that's kind of where the relationship "ends" so to speak, it all feels very surface level, we never have deep conversations, not once. We don't explore abstract ideas together, talk about world issues, social issues or even share cultural connection at all, and it's just kind of how she is as a person. It's not wrong, it's just another personality type, but I'm worried it's incompatible with how I navigate the world. She has about 2 interests and doesn't particularly "know" a whole lot about most things. I find myself having to explain almost anything I talk about, to the point where I sometimes wonder how she's made it this far as an adult, which I really hate thinking because I do love her and genuinely admire some of her traits, especially her creativity, maturity and how easy she is to get along with, I'm just being honest though. But even then when I'm talking about something I consider relatively common knowledge, she'll kind of just nod and agree a lot of time. She does struggle with socializing, and I'm trying to help her with that (I'm on the spectrum and I've spent a lot of time learning how to be socially adept since I used to struggle in the same way, I consider myself fairly social now) but she has no real drive to, nor does she care to, unless it's for me which is unfair to her, so I've kinda stopped. We have talked about this, especially how I have to constantly ask if she even understands what I'm trying to talk about in nearly every conversation since she doesn't really ask questions at all (generally pretty basic things like "do you know this country I'm talking about?" And it's like South Korea or Norway or what leader is in power in our country and she won't know of it's existence or who it is, but won't say anything hence why it's so difficult to talk unless I constantly ask if she knows - it's gotten a little bit better but it's still very present) so conversing has just been super difficult, unless it's about my day, her day, food that looks good or a memory we have of our past. It gets repetitive. When I do try and engage her in something a little more abstract, the only replies I really get are "yeah" or a very simple answer, instead of helping to build the idea tower, she just stares at it. Not in an uninterested way, but just acknowledging its existence and waiting for me do to something with it. Her explanation is that just nothing comes to her head so she doesn't know what to say or ask. Or that she just "doesn't know." It all just feels incredibly surface level, and it keeps eating away at me. We are talking about it now, it's not the first time and she's aware of what's going on with what I'm thinking, so we're going to talk about it a bit more in depth the next time we see each other (we live about an hour apart).
It's like the relationship is good, there are no issues or red flags or abuse or hurt in any direction, but I feel like I'm craving a deeper connection than just talking about what's directly in front of us, or just \\\*that day.\\\*
She's obviously very anxious about our future, especially considering I'm a lot more checked out than I used to be as a result. It's kinda always been in the back of my mind but given how much more serious our relationship has gotten, the thought of moving in together scares me, especially considering I'm a bit avoidant just as a personality trait anyway. I'm also seeing a general lack of drive or direction from her to really do anything with her life. She has aspirations but is taking very few steps if any to really make anything of them which concerns me greatly, especially if we're going to be sharing finances.
I'm just looking for some advice and a sanity check. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

TLDR: the relationship is good, we enjoy doing things together, however it all feels incredibly surface level, especially conversation where there's no real depth past what we did that day, food to try or a memory we have.