u/esotericbeing-

My husband just finished week 1 of bmt and I feel like it’s getting harder as the days go on. We have a 2 month old and 2 older kids. He started the process before we found out I was pregnant, and luckily we were able to have some wiggle room with timing for when he shipped off since he was in DEP.

I’m writing him a letter every other day. Going to the gym, spending time at the beach/outside when I can, talking to/spending time with family+friends, going to therapy weekly and even sending him little texts sporadically. I am just SO SAD almost the entirety of my day, every day. Im having trouble sleeping and eating…I really didn’t think it was going to be like this for me. Especially since I’m proactively trying to keep myself busy and stay on top of my mental health.

I know we still have to work through the process of him being in tech school, but luckily that will be very close to home so we’ll be able to see him on the weekends, and of course I know he’ll have his phone so that will be a plus.

Anything specifically that helped you guys through this time? Or perhaps some words of encouragement?

Thank you

My husband just joined the military, and will be leaving for basic training soon. That being said between basic + tech school AND having to relocate, we decided having one car instead of two makes more sense financially for now and the near future. I’m also pregnant and we already have 2 kids so we need to upsize into a bigger vehicle (hence why we’re looking to trade instead of just getting rid of one).

Can anyone tell me if this is possible? We both still owe money on our current loans so I do expect some of what’s owed to get rolled into a new loan, but that’s about all I have knowledge of after doing some research.

Thank you!