I (18F) have recently discovered my (18M)boyfriend’s addiction to porn and he almost let me get jumped. How do I approach the relationship going forward?
This is a crazy title but yes this is reality. Two weeks ago I discovered my boyfriend’s addiction while he was sleeping. Through our relationship he had expressed to me his addiction with porn and he promised to not look at it as long as I didn’t. I had no previous issues with porn addiction so this was no issue for me, later I found out he had been lying to me for about a year saying he “only watches our videos.” I saw horrendous things and the part that hurt me the most was he was searching for a specific type of girl, these girls have been on his Instagram, likes, TikTok everything. So I had in the back of my mind he had a type. Not only was he searching up specific girls he was following normal everyday girls so he obviously found them attractive. They were nothing like me.
Two days ago me and my boyfriend went on a walk around my neighborhood. A car passes us with no tint, I thought it was my friend in the car so I pointed and waved. I kept walking thinking nothing of it the car speeds back around and the girls begin cursing at me saying I “flipped them off” and my immediate reaction is to argue instead of telling them it was a mistake. This escalated it, but I realize it’s pointless and walk off. We keep walking around my neighborhood then the car comes back with more people in the car, then they begin to record me and get out the car. My boyfriend stands there saying nothing. Not a word. ZERO. While these girls try to argue with me and I just walk off not saying anything because im shocked. I storm past him into my house.
Later that day I ended things, but I keep breaking no contact to curse him out and tell him how I feel. Now he’s reposting things on social media saying I hurt him and “his future wife wouldn’t do that.” Then he privates his Instagram and follows 14 new accounts. I checked from my friend’s phone they’re all girls.