Children of Separated/Divorced parents
I’m 29 (m) years old and have 2 younger siblings both 2-3 years apart. My dad has decided he would like to just leave us permanently and is going back to his home country. We live in the US where we’ve spent more than a decade of our lives and Alhamdulillah made it through this rough phase by will of Allah SWT and the strength of the AhlulBayt(AS).
To make this short, my dad has not worked a day in his life since moving to the US or provided for us. Without getting into reasons why, my siblings and my mom have come to terms that him leaving might be what’s best for us since decades of mental torture and neglect has hindered both mine and my siblings cognitive development. Alhamdulilah this in turn has made all 3 of us mature before a lot of children our age and has instilled our belief in Allah SWT even more.
When people talk about their dads and what they’ve done for them it seems so foreign to me, I can’t ever relate tbh.
To those children who have been through similar situations, how have you answered ‘society’ about what happened between your parents? I mean, not that we care about what people think but it’s just a weird topic to bring up.
Does it hinder potential marriage prospects? Do people treat your family differently? Allah SWT knows us better than other people so I truly believe inshAllah we will all move forward in life and have a better loving family dynamic in the future by His Will but this is a new reality to all of us. My siblings are well established and we have done great for ourselves MashAllah but we want to be prepared for the cruel world I guess.
JazakAllah