u/extraordinaire9

Whatever you’re dealing with in your friendships right now, whether it is ghosting, people never texting first, or just general passive aggressiveness,

it isn't happening by accident.

Sure, if it happens once or twice, it’s just fine. But if it keeps happening, it is pointing toward something else (and it is not what you think it is).

However you as someone who care and don’t wanna lose your friend.

You only have two tools you can use.

First is communication, which can be a hit or miss tbh. And doesn't really change much.

Second (and my personal favorite) is looking in the mirror and examining your own behaviour.

Friendships can be brutal because most people choose to quietly avoid you instead of telling you that you are annoying them.

If people actually communicated, this subreddits wouldn't be flooded with the exact same posts every... single... day!

You have to look at how you show up as an outsider and fix your own side of the street.

for example, if you notice your friend who use to listen to you actively but now you notice this very subtle dread on their face when you start talking, maybe you talk too much or even when it isn’t necessary.

If they constantly leave you on read while staying online, you might be suffocating them.

(sending a text whenever you feel bored) and Talking for five hours a day is exhausting for most people, even if you think it is normal. Dial it back to one hour. They won't tell you they need space, so they just ignore your texts instead.

Ideally take days off too in between.

Your friend is acting passive aggressively, intsead of overthinking right on their face ask them “please tell me if i’ve done something that has hurt your feelings, I’m more then willing to apologize”

You feel your friend is keeping his guard up slightly around you, it maybe you’re acting too high key all the time (unintentionally making them feel insecure) you need to tone it down and balance between high key and lowkey

So Takeaway 1: Nothing in your friendship is by accident, its a symptom not the cause.

Takeaway 2: Communication is good, but without self examination and making changes in how you show up in your friendship, it means nothing.

Final Words: Nothing frustrate me more than this stupid excuse: this is just who I am and I am being authentic, accept me as who I am or find someone else" it only holds you back from improving yourself as a friend, becoming someone who gets perceived as high value and treatment follows.

(Maybe your friends do perceive you as low value and treating you accordingly, now you wanna tell yourself "I'm being authentic" I doubt that)

afterall "Stagnant water turns foul" If you wanna know how you can make changes in yourself (what those changes are) that make your friend want to choose you, and not stay like stagnant water, but the one that's flowing, fresh, full of oxygen, PM me.

Hello there ☺️

About a year ago I came into digital product space

I started to grow my Instagram, although the reach was good, it was from south Asian countries, after 6 months of trying hard (using both VPN and Proxies) it didn't changed anything. So I left

My digital product is a low ticket product, but it's priced in USD, so that traffic is pretty useless for me

I've tried Pinterest, but the niche I'm in, first I couldn't find much stuff there, plus I also didn't enjoyed that at all...

So what source of traffic you guys are using, living in Pakistan other the paid Ads.

Thanks for reading. ♥️

Looking forward to hearing from you.

We try our best to increase closeness with a friend (nothing wrong there).

But we forget, closeness without (true) mutual respect doesn’t worth much (long term).

Here’s what I mean:

When two friends are close, they share a world that outsiders don’t see. They are the ones who get the late-night text venting about a bad day, the ones who automatically save you a seat at the table, and the safe harbor where you can drop your guard completely. From inside jokes that make you laugh until your stomach hurts to standing silently beside you when life falls apart... (so on)

But when the friendship lacks genuine respect, along with those good feelings, there's a subtle sting present as well.

here's what I mean:

When your close friend makes an excuse when you call him/her out of nowhere and you need his/her help. Or leave you on read, take things personally, (so on) But somebody who respects you don't...

• Respect make you make sacrifices 
• Respect is what make you want to show ‘restraint’ when you get an impulse to ask something (this thing of you can ask anything yet you can’t)
• Respect is what make you care about other’s feelings more then your own
• Respect is what keeps you from thinking selfishly
• Respect is what saves the friendship from jealousy, envy, 
• Respect is what truly make you happy for others success
• Respect is what makes you not take things personally when others are having a bad day; instead, make you choose to stay silent and express your grievances later
• Respect is what makes others appreciate your point of view (that can be 180 from them)
• Respect is what makes someone irreplaceable
• Respect is what make someone listen, take your words seriously.
• Respect is what makes someone refuse to laugh—and instead share your discomfort—when someone else makes a joke at your expense
• Respect is what drives you to acknowledge someone rather than leaving them on read; it takes just a second to say, 'I'm tied up at the moment, but I'll reach out soon.
• Respect is what makes your friend care and take you seriously when you share a concern—rather than making you feel stupid or like you’re overreacting, they actually consider it and change

The same person can be experienced differently by two people: one who is close to them, and another who they genuinely respect as a friend

We like to make excuses and say it's unrealistic, or that it takes a special type of person. But trust me, from what I've observed in others and felt in my own head, different people bring out different versions of you. To think everyone gets the same version is just lazy thinking

So while closeness makes a friendship enjoyable, respect is what makes it truly beautiful—because it eliminates that sting entirely.

Seeing these two things differently has completely changed how I define friendship. For me, it's the difference between having a 'Close Friendship' and building a 'Best Friendship.

But here is where we get it wrong: we expect respect to just be a byproduct that comes naturally. It doesn't. Respect is earned. It's like working with clay on a wheel. Closeness is the raw material, but respect is the steady hand that actually molds it into something beautiful.

The problem is that the word 'respect' brings up a specific image. We think of how we respect a teacher, a neighbor, or someone we’ve known forever. That stiff, formal idea makes us hesitant to build our friendships on it.

But if you start seeing respect the way I described above, then it becomes something much more profound, doesn't it?

However, just like closeness, respect takes work. You have to plant the seeds yourself and constantly tend to them with water and sunlight. Too often, we wait around for the other person to take the first step.

But why wait???

So I have a very unique product or rather it solves a very unique specific problem

And naturally it req quite a bit of education or belief shift

So in an effort to sell someone, I gave away that unique mechanism

Haven't gave away the core product but having explained the mechanism in so much detail

I'm feeling insecure if that person would steal my idea

What I do? Am I wrong feeling this? And how you protected yours???