Girlfriend went to wedding, need some advice!
Hoping to get some advice here before initiate an unnecessary/awkward conversation with my girlfriend. We've been seeing each other for 7 months - it's my first serious relationship since getting divorced and one that I really see a future in. Also my first serious relationship in sobriety. My drinking was a big driver in my divorce.
My girlfriend rarely drinks, if ever. I think I've seen her have two total drinks in the time we've been together. She used to run with a party crowd that also got into cocaine but she's distanced herself from them all to have a healthy lifestyle for her and her son. I think getting with me has helped her root in that lifestyle but we haven't had a specific conversation about that.
She went to a wedding over the weekend, one that she had to RSVP to before or in the very early days of our relationship so she went solo and caught up with friends, who I never met. For what it's worth, I found the wedding website and saw she was listed on the RSVP response page with her male friend who traveled in for the wedding. I'm genuinely curious if she drank there, or heaven forbid did something else. She told me she'd come stay the night with me but ended up just enjoying the night with her friends and I didn't talk to her/hear from her until the following morning. No idea what time she went home, or where she stayed, anything like that. I guess that's a separate conversation. Wouldn't have been mad if she stayed out with her friends but I would have appreciated a heads up that she wasn't coming over. I brought her some food for the week that next morning and we interacted like she didn't ghost me on the night, though I never brought it up. Maybe she just doesn't think it's an issue.
I just don't know how to approach the conversation without coming off like an attack, if at all. I FEEL like it's healthy to talk about. Especially knowing the crowd she was with and what she used to get into with them. I saw a picture from the wedding and her eyes looked like she may have been drinking. I'm really paranoid about it. My girlfriend deserves time with her friends. She doesn't do much socially. So I'm not sure if I'm overthinking this (which I have been known to do) or if I should start a conversation.
So I've got questions. Any insight here is appreciated so I can maybe think about this in different ways before making anything awkward or hostile. Thank you!!
EDIT TO ADD: I've already reached out to my therapist about my paranoia. I want to work through it if I legit don't have anything to worry about here. My paranoia is rooted in my divorce - when I was trying to save my marriage in the two months leading up to my ex-wife leaving, she was staying out all night and not coming home until the next day so I've got some PTSD around stuff like that.