Partner's parents trying to persuade him/us without my knowledge
My partner just mentioned that his parents (mom) has many times asked him about us marrying and having kids. I asked if he told her I never want kids. He said yes, he has told her that. He and I have been together for 3 years and I didn't know this conversation was happening, outside of acknowledging it might have happened early on before they really knew me, and I definitely didn't think it was happening on a recurring basis or recently.
She doesn't broach this conversation when I'm around, only with him. I find it disturbing to know she is talking to him / asking him about kids repeatedly in order to do...what? To try to convince her son to persuade me to go against my own wishes? Without my knowledge and behind my back, when he has already told her I don't want them. It feels like an invasion of privacy / imposition into our relationship from her and I feel super weird knowing about it now and also not previously knowing it had been happening the whole time.
My partner said he never mentioned it before because he was shielding me from it, or something. I never before thought about what his parents might say about me or regarding me to him when I'm not around. I don't think my parents ever really talk about my partner to me, outside of just casual conversation (how is he doing, how is his work, etc.), so I never thought about whether his parents might have things to say about me/our relationship when I'm not around. I feel really weird knowing this now.