Lost my Dad of Bile duct Cancer
I lost my Dad on Aug 6, he was always healthy with lot of energy traveling, he will complain of back pain or knee pain, doctor will prescribe him medicine for pain. We went to Alaka for fathers day, we where 7 days, he had his usual back pain and gelt bloated. He drink some pain killers and bloating medicine and felt well, but he had no abdominal pain or other issues. When we arrive we were going to a urgent care but suddenly he felt better and wanted to go back home to his primary doctor. I told ask the doctor for a ct scan. The doctor gave him more pain medicine, medicine for acid reflux. Then almost after a week result came showing 3 masses ill talking about lymph nodes spreaded. That day i call him and told him go to emergency , there he went they repeated the scan and showed the same, he was with a referral to a liver speaciliast and oncologist. He went after 5 days to the liver specialist, he gave him more pain medicine and told him to go for a biopsy. The biopsy too a week to be performed. But 3 days after before biopsy he felt lot of pain, confused and he was admitted again. They made a ct scan of brain and saw some lesions, that night he lost the strength of his legs. Finally after 2 days admitted they did the biopsy but took 5 days for results. He declined each day more. I got to talk to him but barely speak, he was with 2 strong medicine to avoid inflammation in the brain. I told him i loved him, hug him, kiss him , say sorry if i something wrong but i was nervous of loosing him. Then on Aug 6 the oncologist came, he told is he has bile duct cancer metastized and there was nothing to do, just send him hospice. But that same day in the afternoon, he pass away. I saw him pass away, called nurse but there was no more pulse. I lost my dad in front of my eyes along with my brother. But in the morning he danced, we took a picture and hold hangs and was given God blessings. I miss him greatly and i still cant believe what we taught was a stomach reflux issue was a cancer eating him. This is a silent cancer, very aggressive and sad. My dad was strong, maybe he did feel more pain but not to worry us just kept silent/ . I feel bad i did not force him to go to the urgent care when we came from the cruise. I dont now one month in advance will had make a difference. He was already in July 17 with those two big tumors, lesions in his brains on july 29 and metastasized to lymph nodes, he was string to support all that. It is hard to cope and i have no energy to work again. Miss him deeply.