fiancé and i just broke up over a movie (obsession)
so basically we went to watch obsession and immediately after coming out of the theater i said i felt really bad for nikki. i was basically saying that bear ruined her life and rambling on about how he’s the villain and my (now ex) fiance said he actually thought bear was in the right to an extent but a morally grey character and i was like “absolutely tf not, he literally r-ped her” and he was saying she was consenting and we argued about it. we saw the movie the night it came out (may 15) and we’d been arguing about it on and off ever since.
the big break: basically we were at a fourth of july party and i got drunk, while drunk i made a (sexual) advance and we ended up having sex and in the middle of it he was like “you’re not gonna say im a r-pist because you’re drunk right?” and i was obvi super confused and he started talking about what id said about the movie and comparing it to me being drunk (mind you he’s still inside me) and i got super pissed because wtf? picking now of all times?? mentioning r-pe to a survivor while intimate???
so we argued more and then i told him i wanted to go home and the next morning we talked about it and he just kept pushing it and pissing me off and i can’t even remember what we were saying because i was hungover and then i just blew up at him and told him to gtfo and then remembered that it was his apartment so i started crying and packing my stuff and when i got back to my place i told my cousin (who we saw the movie with) she said she thinks im right and also mentioned that what he said about r-pe/sa while we were intimate and in the context of the movie was a red flag. we talked about it more and i just texted him that i didnt want to work it out because i just don’t think i can compromise even though if its ‘just a movie’ to him and he blocked me so yeah its over
edit: i feel like it’s relevant to mention that bro is a film major