How do you manage anger, resentment and disappointment? 😆
Hey ENFJs, a tired ISFJ here whose a sheep or two away from a 10 hour "power nap" in a burrito blanket of infinite woes. 😆
I have a question, and I thought I'd try asking in this sub, since every ENFJ I've met externally seems like a positive ray of sunshine, but I know we all have issues inside, even ENFJs, so maybe a fellow type who tends to repress the negative emotions just a wee bit might relate? 😅
Basically.. How do you guys manage / cope with anger, resentment or specifically disappointment..? 😭 Specifically, when you just know someone is going to disappoint you again, but you keep telling yourself to just be patient, then they disappoint you again. How do you.. Process that feeling of.. "Yup, knew it"? 😅 "I'm always the fool, look at me in my clown shoes!"
An example, today I'm supposed to have a meeting with this one manager who is testing my patience with their incompetence and terrible communication skills. 😅 We planned this meeting a month ago. A week ago, I pop him a gentle reminder. 3 days ago, another. This morning - All left on read. 3 hours before the meeting, he cancels. 😬
Ofc I'm telling him, y'kno, it's fine, we'll reschedule, no worries.. But now I'm lying in bed realising I pulled an all nighter because I was too anxious about this meeting to sleep, put effort into cleaning my work space for the video call, washed my hair (which takes a lot of effort for me because I'm disabled and it has caused me a painful flare up, hence the upcoming 10 hour nap).. Yet deep down I knew he was gonna cancel on me because he is typically unreliable, this guys a total flake. 😅 Yet I still gave him the benefit of the doubt. Silly me.
I feel like I only have myself to blame here, but.. Man, do you ever just get super disappointed with people? Like, how hard is it really to respond to my message earlier? 😬 Not 3 hours before the meeting! You inconvenienced ME, and I'm reassuring YOU? I want to like people, so why does everyone have to be so frustratingly.. Frustrating?! Why do people make it so hard to tolerate them? 😆
Brooother! 😅 I want to believe the best of others, but everyone is hugely disappointing.. I can only make so many excuses for people before my tolerance is at it's limit, and it's getting there! 😆
So, friendly ENFJs! ☀️ Do any of you experience similar feelings of anger, resentment or disappointment? How do you process them? I'm trying to stop myself from becoming jaded here, but its getting hard. I'd appreciate any advice, or even just a thumbs up, pat on the head and an encouraging "It'll be ok, you did your best, well done for trying", I dunno.. 😭
Thanks for reading. Looking forward to your responses, nap time! 😴