2 year old sleep help
Our daughter is 2 years old (27months if that makes a difference) and she is having consistent issues sleeping though the night. It's almost always 2:30am. She will wake up and scream, we go in there and she will just stay away and roll around while we sit in there and we usually loose patience at 2 hours. We have tried ferber and she just screams for 2 hours so we generally sit in there. I will admit me and my husband make plans and either he feels bad and doesn't stick to them or I am exhausted and lose patience and don't stick to them which I know is a problem of its own.
Before bedtime we tub or play. At 7:15 we have one last snack, at 7:30 we put on PJs and start reading books. We have a toddler training clock we call buddy. He goes to sleep at 7:50. Usually about 8 she turns off the light. I cuddle her and sing her a song and then tuck her in bed. A giant struggle has been not touching her while she goes to sleep. She just winds up again. I tried for a week and each night she would wind up about me not holding her hand and she didn't settle easily. So I hold her hand until she falls asleep (anywhere from 8:20-8:50).
Nap is at daycare and I dislike it. She doesn't go down until 1 and sleeps until 2:45-3. I asked for earlier naps and they said they would put her down first so that shifted to 12:30-12:50... I know an earlier and shorter nap would be ideal but I can't do much about it.
Overnight she wakes up at 2:30. We sit in the room and she refuses to sleep. We don't talk to her. When we leave she screams. We were doing ferber but...guess who can now open doors! And some nights (like tonight) she wakes up at 2:30 and just stays awake until school. And she will do that multiple nights in a row which is not good for mom and dad working full time jobs.
I know I need to stop holding her hand and work on moving out of the room. I know we need to do better at night. I was thinking she gets 20 minutes and then we leave. Should I get a child safety lock and do ferber again?
Any advice is much appreciated