u/flowerstone

Basically what the title says. My husband does things like: track mud into the house unapologetically, outright refuse to clean up messes he makes, snub what I cooked so he can eat a bag of chips instead, and chronically forget many things coupled with insisting he shouldn't have to keep his word.

These and similar behaviors are things my kids (under 6) notice and want to copy. They also explicitly try and justify such bad behaviors because "Dad does it". I'm stuck in the hard position of having to explain that these behaviors aren't acceptable, even if they see them modeled.

I want to respect my husband and at the same time make it clear that the things he often does are not OK. I also don't boys to grow up thinking that this kind of behavior is how they should treat their wives someday, or girls thinking that they should normalize this from a husband.

How would you handle this in the most biblical and loving way possible?

I have some light colored carpet to clean. While I do own a carpet cleaning machine, I cannot use any standard carpet cleaning solutions due to not only my own chemical sensitivities but also the fact that babies need to play on said carpet.

This carpet looks grey in the middle from ground in dirt and I've so far tried cleaning it for over an hour with castile soap and water in the machine, followed by white vinegar in the machine. I don't feel like either made a dent.

What else can I use in the carpet cleaning machine that's non-toxic...but hopefully more effective?

How can I get these horrible grey spots out without having to rip out the carpets? This carpet is only 5 years old FWIW.