My Future In-Laws are back on their bullshit
I should’ve known. After having a history of changing an entire day’s itinerary to accommodate themselves during every family trip, to demanding we all drive in one car during those trips (Forcing us to do their activities) even after telling us to rent a small car because they had their own rental. This leads up to them asking us to change our wedding date to accommodate our BIL’s work trip (Luckily we didn’t have a venue at the time), and to them inviting more people to our tiny wedding which was supposed to be immediate family and closest friends only.
They tried to guilt us into inviting aunts and uncles that my fiance doesn’t even have relationships with. This was after explaining that I don’t have family that can afford to fly out (They live in another country) and we want to keep it intimate and also not have 30 people on his side and 10 on mine. We wanted 20-25 guests max.
Well, the future in laws did it again. I should’ve known better.
Last month they offered to pay for a pre-wedding dinner. Cool. Just my parents, sister, BIL, and my fiancé’s parents, sister, and her family. Laid back. We picked a restaurant and told them it’s what we had in mind.
Weeks go by and they called us panicking because they were nervous about the restaurant’s reviews and the grandchildren being able to sit still during dinner. They instead offer to host a dinner at their Airbnb with food from a restaurant. Instead of just our family they want to host their out of town guests (Their friends that they begged us invite). How cozy. Bumping elbows in an Airbnb while hoping my divorced parents don’t have to stand in the dinner line together.
BIL texted asking about the “Welcome party” the same day that my fiancés parents brought it up, which tells me that they already had the sister and BIL’s buy in without even getting OUR approval, you know, the couple that is getting married the day after.
I want to relax the night before my wedding with the food of MY choice, before OUR big day, surrounded by my family that will be flying across the ocean to see us and his family. I appreciate their gesture, but as someone who is anxious, introverted, and never wanted a wedding or anything extra, this is exhausting. We’ve bent so many times and I’m tired of it. My fiance should’ve said no about 10 times ago.
SMALL UPDATE: They texted us this morning saying that SIL and BIL are waiting for “numbers” from us. Number of guests? My fiance told them yesterday he’d talk to them on Sunday when he’s off from work and said we’d prefer a small restaurant gathering. Jesus Christ.