Am i reading this wrong
Ladies of this subreddit. I have a question for you. My partner 52f and myself 49m were having a converstion regarding intimacy, (she brought it up). She said to me that i havnt talked about sex lately, wanting it ect. She has been going through peri for about 7yrs we figured out the other day.
I said i dont really think about it anymore as perimenopause is a beast that i cannot win with so i just try not to think about it and in many cases the kids need help with something or the house hold jobs need doing so its forgotten pretty quickly.
Many years ago she wanted space so i left the bedroom and took up residence in the loungeroom. Its just easy that way.
Anyway she was supprised with the answer, we usually have some sort of intimacy once a month give or take.
She let me know that she still does want sex but has no sex drive, loves it when we are having fun.
She said she is open to sex i just have to ask her and get her motor going and it would be all fun and games. She just cannot get her motor going by herself.
She has never openly spoke about this.
My question is this. Is this just hormones talking (she is on many hormone replacement medication) or is this maybe a crack in the peri beast that has taken her only because she is thinking this way. I dont want to dance the happy dance if this is just a phase and me asking for sex does more bad than good. Ive not asked for 7yrs and only let her lead, (for saftey reasons,)
Thank you for your time and replies in advance.