Help with asking a bridesmaid to fully commit or step down
Hi all,
I have a bridesmaid that I was a bridesmaid for, and I consider one of my best friends. When I asked her to be a bridesmaid, she accepted, but then has made comments of “if I can get the time off of work…” for reference we did the same job and I literally almost got forced to work on her wedding and had to beg, borrow and steal to make sure I was there, but I never once made her feel like I wasn’t going to be there or said I wasn’t going to be there. The only thing I wasn’t involved in for her wedding was the bachelorette party, as I was away for a work thing that I couldn’t get out of and we discussed that.
She recently told me she couldn’t come to my bridal shower because her and her husband are going on a camping trip… OK fine whatever, she also has been wishy-washy about the bachelorette which I wouldn’t be upset about I understand, but I feel like I need to tell her she needs to commit 100% to the wedding or step down… I have another friend that would step up in a heartbeat and I know it’s already going to be there and has RSVPed for the wedding, which all of my bridesmaids but this one specific one have.
I feel like it’s really awkward and I don’t wanna bring it up but we are almost 3 months out and I feel like if she can’t RSVP/tell me if she’s going to be there I need to know now so we can make arrangements. I’m just struggling to find the words to tell her in a way that isn’t going to piss her off or hurt her :(
EDIT TO ADD:
I’m strictly worried she hasn’t gotten a dress and hasn’t RSVPed as my MOH told me she sent a text to all the girls to have their RSVP in now rather than later and the rest did