u/forsuredrunk

I've worked as a electrician for eight years. I only started a new company two months ago. I found out I'm six weeks pregnant this week I know plenty of women who have rocked it. My best friend is cheering me, but this is my first.

I work out of town often. Sometimes with chemicals. Recently back in oil and gas. Scared I'll get sat, a little embarrassed, but excited. Worried I'll be judged. Keeping a closed mouth and close eye on it right now seeing what happens and how I feel. Cracking down on PPE.

Looking for advice, and other experiences in this area.

Im sure everything will work out great, just in a thoughts spiral.

Looking for advice on help/improve my mother-in-law's quality of long-term care

My elderly mother-in-law has been in permanent care for several years after a major stroke. She is completely paralysed on one side. Lately she's also showing signs of dementia on and off—sometimes she doesn't know where she is and thinks she's at work.

I only moved to this town one years ago to live with my husband, so I'm relatively new to being involved in her care(eight months, however i knew her when she was functional when i was a teenager.). I visit her often, and while the staff seem kind and provide her basic medical care, I'm worried about her personal care and comfort.

For example, will cut her nails. I worry because her left hand is curled due to paralysis. They haven't really brush her hair. Recently I found a huge mat in her hair and spent two days gently brushing it out because it was so bad. She now has a rash from wearing incontinence briefs. As treating it they've just put a "tent" over her blankets to let air circulate. But it seems quiet uncomfortable.

I understand that staff are busy, and I'm not trying to criticise them unfairly. I just don't know what level of care is considered normal, or whether I should be advocating for more. I don't want to make things worse for her by complaining if it could affect how she's treated.

I'm wondering:

- Is this level of personal care typical in long-term care?

- Is there anything I can reasonably ask the staff to do?

- Are there things I can buy or do myself to make her more comfortable, id love to help. My mom used to work in palative care, but in another country?

I'd really appreciate hearing from anyone who's worked in long-term care or has been through something similar with a loved one.

I am a Journeyman Electrician. I live in Canada in a pretty oil and gas area. I started at a new company in the last few weeks. I can't stop noticing whenever we have tail gates. I am trying to get paper work done to start my job. Or even ASK A QUESTION. I'm ignored. Plus showing me how to do things ive done a thousand times, and told them im confident in doing. People talk around me and ignore me. Im not quiet. I understand I am new at this company and need to show/earn/prove my worth, but even the other girl at the job is doing it. I'm not sure what to make of it.

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Maybe I'm just too used to my old company where I knew everyone.

Ideas?