u/fortitudefortitdude

Hello! My Husband and I are having some difficulties with deciding on wedding food. Guest count is about 80

My father very generously has offered to pay for the wedding party food.

Everything will be self serve, there will not be formal catering service as we are hosting at our house and having a backyard style party.

For context: We eloped last summer and are having a wedding party for our family and friends to meet this July. There will not be a ceremony or seating arrangements, it's going to be very relaxed. We are saving a fortune on the venue as we are doing it at our house. Our family members are able to provide party tents, tables and chairs.

Dad is a former chef and definitely has opinions. He also has connections from some of the restaurants he's worked at before which helps.

He had already thought to order eggplant parm from an Italian restaurant he worked at for vegetarians (which we might scrap) and an assortment of dishes from a local Mexican restaurant.

My husband and I have been thinking about a taco bar. My parents seem to think this is a terrible idea.

If he pays for a few trays of meat along with rice&beans, then we can pay for the fixings-cheese, lettuce, tomato, onion, shells, salsa etc. And if we go to Costco/Bjs we can save alot by buying the larger bulk items.

Just wondering if anyone else has done something similar. Is there anything you would have done differently? Is this actually a terrible idea? Or does this make sense?

Please help by weighing in, thank you. 🌮

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