u/fuego0517

A lot of things remind me of my ex and I wonder if he thinks of me the way I do. When he watched a character in a movie give her boyfriend a sandwich with a sticky note and polaroid picture of them on top did he think of when I did that for him? When he runs his second marathon coming up in a week, will he think of how I was the only person who went to support him with a poster at his very first marathon that he trained all year for and was super nervous about?

Clearly, these things make me think of him. But I also already think about him a lot. My friends (male and female) say that guys are simpler and make those connections, so he most likely doesn't think of me.

For context, he broke up with me 7 months ago and has had a girlfriend for the last 5 months. He also blocked me a few months ago. I think I thought I was special to him, but my friends don't think I meant that much to him so I don't know.

I really wish I could forget him, but I get that's impossible. I think EMDR therapy could be the next best thing. I feel like it could potentially soften the emotions I have toward the break up and hopefully, remove my feelings for my ex in a way. Has this worked for anyone?

My male friends always tell me to stop trusting men, that you cannot believe anything a man says to you about their feelings. And so far, this has proven to be true for me. They will make you feel like they love you more than anything and insist that they really want things to work, but then leave you never meant anything to them at all. Seriously, every man I've had any kind of romantic relationship with has deceived me. They all acted like they liked me so much and just left without flinching. I was nothing to them, but they made me feel like I was everything and that's what shattered me every time. I will never again believe when a man tells me they have feelings for me. I will never again believe that any man actually cares about me as much as they say. I would be a complete idiot if I let myself fall for another man again because I believed him when he said he was all in with me.

Disclaimer: This is *my* experience and therefore *my* reality. I am here to vent about my feelings from dating. This statement obviously won't be true for everyone.

You cannot believe anything a man says to you about their feelings. They will make you feel like they love you more than anything and insist that they really want things to work, but then leave you never meant anything to them at all. Seriously, every man I've had any kind of romantic relationship with has deceived me. They all acted like they liked me so much and just left without flinching. I was nothing to them, but they made me feel like I was everything and that's what shattered me every time. I will never again believe when a man tells me they have feelings for me. I will never again believe that any man actually cares about me as much as they say. I would be a complete idiot if I let myself fall for another man again because I believed him when he said he was all in with me.

My last relationship solidified my belief that anyone, no matter how much they appear to like you or insist on making things work, can and will leave. I don't want to get into another relationship ever again because I already know for certain that they will eventually leave and break my heart.

For those who regretted breaking up with someone, how long did it take you to realize it was a mistake? Did you date other people in between?

(This question is for those who dumped somebody and regretted it. I'm not really looking for people to comment just to say they didn't regret leaving someone).

Are there any stories of people who impulsively broke up with a great person/connection then regretted leaving?

Are there any stories of people who impulsively broke up with a great person/connection then regretted leaving?

I miss him so much. What we had seemed so special. I don't get it. He seemed to really want to make it work. He seemed to really like me. But he ended it like it was nothing. He moved on like I never meant anything. He has someone new and I couldn't even believe he'd find someone comprable to me. I hate myself so much. I literally cannot do this anymore. I always end up alone and heartbroken. I cared about him so much and he knows that. So why did I mean nothing? Why didn't he regret leaving?

I wish I were a man, so so badly. You guys have little to no emotions. I see how easy it is for a man to leave a good woman and how much easier it is to move on. I know I am generalizing, but I have never seen a man yearn over a woman for years the way I have yearned over men in my past. I have witnessed how all of my exes have moved on so quickly and so easily after leaving me. I have observed how none of them have ever regretted ending things and were able to forget me like I never existed in the first place. I have seen how much happiness they have been able to find with someone else, and how it wasn't hard at all to find someone to replace me.

Every single man I have been with has acted like they were so desperate to be with me. They all acted like I was the girl of their dreams that they were not willing to lose. And yet, they all left so easily and so abruptly. And once they were gone, I never heard from any of them again. They just delete me from their minds and it seems so easy to do so. I've seen this happen with so many men, not just the ones I've dated. I wish more than anything that I had this level of detachment. I wish so badly that I could just not care about someone I supposedly loved. I wish I could just move on and forget the way that a man could.

My exes all have left me and some time not too long after the relationships ending, they find some other girl that they decide to actually be a good boyfriend for. I watch as they manage to sustain these relationships and be happy without me. I just want to know how I can be that. How can I be the girl guys are willing to be better for? How can I be the girl guys are willing to stay for?