AITA For getting upset at my fiance for wanting to sleep with me
So me (20) and my fiance (22) have been together for 4 years. At the start we were quite intimate with each other but it has stopped quite a lot these past 3 years and now is non-existent. Backstory to this is that I'm asexual and have no sexual desire at all and my fiance is very aware of this, my fiance on the other hand has needs like a "normal" person. I also do have quite a lot of trauma surrounding the subject from the past 3 years which he again is very aware of but has always kinda/fully dismissed it. For the past week or so, he has repeatedly been upset at me for not wanting any (not talking to me, being quiet and apparently now harming himself as well)even though I've made it clear that I will tell him if it's okay (he has never pressured me into it though!) and right now it seems to be driving quite big of a wedge in our relationship and I don't know what to do anymore. I see our relationship as much more than just that kind of intimacy but it's starting to seem like that's all he's seeing and without it, theres no good relationship for him I guess. He also has started to question if I even love him anymore because of this like wtf, all I do everyday is give him closure and tell him that I love him, but apparently any other type of closure doesn't mean anything to him and I'm starting to get annoyed. I understand that he has needs but it can't be that hard to also respect my boundaries which I've very clearly communicated to him and well, not be mad at me for not wanting to do something that makes me anxious. Am I in the wrong or?