Husband Won't Workout in the Morning
My husband likes to workout 2-3 times a week. We have little kids, so it's usually 2. He always asks me the day-of if he can go to the gym that day after work. When he goes to the gym, he usually gets home about 6:30. Without gym, it's about 5:30. This has been a long-standing argument between us. That is squarely in the middle of the hardest time of day for the rest of us. I'm usually trying to get dinner accomplished, the kids are losing their shit by then, and so am I. Even on the days he comes home at 5:30, I'm counting down the minutes until he walks in the door because I'm fried. I've asked him SO MANY times to go to the gym before work like everybody else. He tried it like 3 times after we had a newborn, and then told me he can't do it then because it makes him not feel good. Something about his stomach issues (he has some minor issues that he manages fine with some supplements, but he's very cagey and weird about it). He never goes into detail about it when I press him for more info and says he can't explain it and I won't understand. It feels like a huge sacrifice on my part, and I resent him for it on the really hard days. I feel bad if I say no (if I do say no, he doesn't give me a hard time about it at all, but I know he's disappointed), but I also usually hate him going after work. Feels like a lose/lose. He could theoretically go after the kids are in bed, but that's also really hard because it's the only window of time we have together and we usually try to straighten up the house then or just accomplish other things or hang out a bit. It also takes longer to do it that way because he has to go all the way there and back instead of him just pulling into the gym on his way home. Does anyone have some advice on how I should handle this? There must be some kind of compromise or something that I'm missing?
Tl;dr My husband insists on going to the gym at the time of day when I need him home the most and says he can't go before work because it makes him not feel good. I want him to be healthy and have the opportunity to go, but I resent him for it on the really tough days when I'm wrangling the kids alone.