Looking for advice Cancer (F) & and Sag (M)
Hi everyone,
**Throwaway for obvious reasons**
Looking for some advice on a romantic interest for a Cancer woman I am trying to pursue. We met at work when I complimented her on a piece of clothing she was wearing. Apparently she saw her opening because we started talking immediately afterwards. Every day she would come to my desk and we would talk about random things for an hour or so. We would share snacks. She mentioned she loved books and I said I would love to read them sometime. So she bought me 5-6 books to read. I started reading them and they are a completely different genre than I am used to no biggie. One day after work I asked her if she had plans for the weekend and she told me she was going on a date. I didn’t really say much at the time but inside I was a little hurt. No worries I adjusted my expectations.
We keep talking at my desk and things are going well. So I
decided to bring her lunch. I made something a little special but nothing too big to stand out. Apparently she didn’t like that gesture because she changed 180. She stopped coming to my desk, text messages had less energy etc. I adjusted my expectations again. About 1-2 weeks later she started to visit my desk again for a few minutes, she would get close to me, touch me etc. So I began to read the books once again. I texted messaged her my favorite parts of the books. No big response from her. I let her know I was starting a new book. No big response from her. I would message her and she would always respond but there was no energy in her messages. No sharing on her part, no reciprocal energy, no initiation on her part. I mean shit I have 6 of your books. So I keep reading and showing interest on my part. I let her know I was interested
I gave her a few of her books back and then the next day she bought me another 10 books. So now I am up to 15 books of hers. She mentioned that another co-worker saw us together and that co worker asked if we’re together. She told me that she has no romantic interest at anyone at work. I adjust my expectations again. But when she comes to my desk on occasion she is always smiling and very close with me. She loves to touch me. Our hands touch but she never asks me about the books she gave me..
I am completely lost. I don’t text message her as much now. Until I see some energy reciprocating from her end. I would love to invite her out so we can talk about her books but I know she will say no. As a sag I am not much of a chaser, but I am being super patient with this cancer woman. In hopes she will open up one day. Any advice or anything I am missing