r/CancertheCrab

We’re no longer in contact, but today is your birthday. I think about you everyday and I miss you. Missing you feels like an understatement, but the best way I can articulate myself right now. I prayed many times to the universe to please protect you, even if it’s no longer with me. I love you. Part of me always will. Thank you for being apart of my life when you were. Happy birthday❤️

Just wanted to share this somewhere into the ether. Still trying to love you from afar I guess. I know there are many people that could possibly relate.

If there’s someone you miss, please feel free to share your favorite thing(s) about them here! I feel like we don’t get to speak about the people we miss often.

I’m a Cancer sun, Virgo moon and Cancer rising.

Unrelated little question: Do any of you out there gravitate toward symbolism in a way that appears in using a symbol, icon, image, etc that you wear or display frequently to represent yourself? If so, what is it? (Not necessarily tied to being a Cancer, just something that resonates with you)

Thank God, I left a narcissist. I no longer feel boxed on a role of being only sexualized and not love. It feels so freeing. He no longer hovers and orbits around me after a very mean confrontation. I let him think he's a victim and I'm the fault for the fall on relationship. He was still talking to his ex while pursuing me, he might have been doing that to me through the end of relationship.

I feel bad for whoever the new girl is. But at least I no longer feel boxed on a shitty role and feel free to pursue whatever I want without someone telling me everyday they don't like me or feeling shitty all the damn time.

I'm a cancer woman and I was on a journey of healing and happened to meet/reconnected with him. He was so unhealed kind of a Leo man, he was so draining, lot of wounds, fears, and abandonment issue that affected me so much.. he has a lot of unhealthy behaviors, mindset, and habits that he projected on me.

Who is also feeling so muddy the last few days? I'm a 12 July crabby patty, and I dread my birthday. I know we just had a capricorn full moon, that's my ASC, and the upcoming mercury rx.

after a year of multiple losses at once, i’ve taken a good hard look at my life and relationships and sadly most were out of alignment. i don’t know if it’s because I’m hypersensitive to reciprocity and consistency at the moment or if i have just grown out of them, but this is tough because I’m really wanting to reconnect, but not at the cost of hiding myself or over-giving. can anyone else relate and how do you navigate this?

I’ve dealt with depression too.

Cancers feel a lot. And sometimes that turns into depression.

If you’ve been through it, what actually helped you? Therapy, routine, people, time?

Just trying to hear real experiences.🤍

I asked Google AI “who are the kindest souls in the zodiac” and it lead with Cancer. Then I asked about the biggest a-holes in the zodiac and it said Scorpio (my ex-wife) and Aries (my latest ex-girlfriend). That’s all the validation I need. We may be looked down on, belittled, and even abused by these other signs, but it’s because we’re mostly decent human beings who threaten their guilty egos. We Cancers should be very proud of who we are, regardless of the flack we get. We may have our faults, but we’re incredibly kind souls, and to me, there’s no higher calling than this.

This will be my last post i am sorry, lol. Every Taurus i have encountered in my life weren’t very good people and often have the same traits. These are majority Taurus women though. I don’t have my birth chart just yet (I need my time of birth 😔), but i have been trying to dig deep into astrology more without my birth chart, and I think I may have a house in Taurus and i have lesson I need to learn through them maybe? I’m not sure if this makes sense lol. Most Tauruses I know specifically are very controlling, they like to dictate other, and very sneaky, and I think I’m having these experiences because maybe I have Taurus placements🤔

Hi everyone,

**Throwaway for obvious reasons**

Looking for some advice on a romantic interest for a Cancer woman I am trying to pursue. We met at work when I complimented her on a piece of clothing she was wearing. Apparently she saw her opening because we started talking immediately afterwards. Every day she would come to my desk and we would talk about random things for an hour or so. We would share snacks. She mentioned she loved books and I said I would love to read them sometime. So she bought me 5-6 books to read. I started reading them and they are a completely different genre than I am used to no biggie. One day after work I asked her if she had plans for the weekend and she told me she was going on a date. I didn’t really say much at the time but inside I was a little hurt. No worries I adjusted my expectations.

We keep talking at my desk and things are going well. So I
decided to bring her lunch. I made something a little special but nothing too big to stand out. Apparently she didn’t like that gesture because she changed 180. She stopped coming to my desk, text messages had less energy etc. I adjusted my expectations again. About 1-2 weeks later she started to visit my desk again for a few minutes, she would get close to me, touch me etc. So I began to read the books once again. I texted messaged her my favorite parts of the books. No big response from her. I let her know I was starting a new book. No big response from her. I would message her and she would always respond but there was no energy in her messages. No sharing on her part, no reciprocal energy, no initiation on her part. I mean shit I have 6 of your books. So I keep reading and showing interest on my part. I let her know I was interested

I gave her a few of her books back and then the next day she bought me another 10 books. So now I am up to 15 books of hers. She mentioned that another co-worker saw us together and that co worker asked if we’re together. She told me that she has no romantic interest at anyone at work. I adjust my expectations again. But when she comes to my desk on occasion she is always smiling and very close with me. She loves to touch me. Our hands touch but she never asks me about the books she gave me..

I am completely lost. I don’t text message her as much now. Until I see some energy reciprocating from her end. I would love to invite her out so we can talk about her books but I know she will say no. As a sag I am not much of a chaser, but I am being super patient with this cancer woman. In hopes she will open up one day. Any advice or anything I am missing

Just curious.. some of us have dated or been in entanglement with men and we cry, then we get angry, then we as Cancer woman get pissed. We might find out information, feel used or he went silent and like me we have to sit with the unknown.

So I am here thinking and my evil side is coming out. I know he is going to be self righteous and on his high horse or show remorse because he might show sorrow then 2 days later defensive then when I text him he doesn't answer. So now, I feel like he is playing with my emotions and I'm back to pissed.

Tell me your revenge stories because I am past the heartbreak and moving into feeling pissed for letting my heart open up to a man that is sitting in sorrow but refuse to act like an adult and resolve the misunderstanding.

I am going back and forth feeling stupid to being pissed because I trusted him with my heart, then hurt and crying picturing his face seeing the hurt and sorrow, back to being pissed because he will not let me get to him so he feels my love.

Happy Friday my evil cancer friends.. let's feel better.

Tell me some fun revenge stories to make me feel better. This retrograde is messing with my emotions big time.

I’ve known several cancers and it seems both the men and women desperately seek validation from people who don’t like them or are indifferent to them. They’re more superficial charming and let people talk shit to them and let their guard down. At the same time, the nicer you are to them, the colder and more distant they get. But if you treat them more cold, distant, and surface level they want your attention more. Why??

I’ll start my go tos are

Needy - Ariana Grande
Here - Alessia Cara

It might be my Libra rising transits over 11th house. I have wonderful friendships normally it’s the one area of life I never have complaints on until this week.

Birthday is next week and literally almost every single person I reached out to about my birthday plans flat out left them on read. You would’ve thought I was asking people who wants to go to the bmv. Then my literal longtime best friend said she was debating doing something else with a random person my bday weekend and that she’ll get back to me on it. Other Friend went off on me on monday over something they made up in their head (clear mental episode). Have to take my cat to the vet and not a single person has been able to give me a ride all week when I do the same for others all the time.

Just generally getting ignored by my whole inner circle.

I feel like I’m being pranked. I’ve never had so much blatant disrespect in one week let alone it is not normal for my closest circle to do anything like this at all. I just want it to be over with.

Cancelled any possible plan I had for my birthday and plan to continue being productive in isolation until whatever this bs is passes.