u/godwhywontitend

I was active duty and transitioned into the reserves last year. I was participating in funeral honors and there was an issue with my DTS accounts, the civilian in charge of my accounts detached one and I was able to use my active one for filing my vouchers. I took a break from funeral honors and then went back to it this year. There was another issue with my account. I didn’t have the current number for where the funding came from and I had to use my reserve account now. I reset it to log in to my reserve profile and now when I attempt to login, I get a pop up that says that I already have two accounts associated with my social. My current unit doesn’t know what’s up, DTS doesn’t know what’s up, and I was informed even REDCOM can’t do anything. I’ve already contact my previous units and they both told me that my current unit owns my profiles. I keep getting the runaround and I have a school coming up that I’ve been waiting over a year to attend. If anyone knows how to solve this you would be helping me out immensely.

My brother was involved in a hit and run Monday night. He’s currently in the hospital in critical condition. According to PD, the cameras on that intersection don’t work. I’m trying to look for more angles or see if anyone in the surrounding area possibly has footage from a ring camera or dash cam.
The time of the incident was Monday, August 10th at around 1019 on the intersection of Warner Ave and Raitt St.

Please, he’s a good kid. He didn’t deserve this at all.

Sometimes I feel like my partner cares more about his firstborn than the baby I just had. SK lives with their mother in another state and because his ex is the standard goldstar HCBM, he’s constantly catering to her to keep whatever little peace remains. The goalpost is constantly moving so I’ve stopped getting involved as much. I’ll simply ask how his phone calls go and that’s it. I try to be low maintenance and chill about her behavior, I even pretended to be ok with him leaving out of state to go to an event the first week we brought our baby home. I pretend to be ok and passive about things that disrupt my life because if I voice any concerns I’m accused of keeping him from his child or not embracing the stepparent role. The last time SK was here all I did was clean up and get excluded from everything and it almost ended the relationship because he admitted to neglecting me in favor of being a Disney Dad. All I wanted was to be included and treated like we were a unit.

SK wasn’t supposed to come for the summer- we had agreed that since HCBM said he’d only get three days instead of his usual week, we’d just wait until his granted holiday because it’s a 10+ hour drive to and from and because HCBM is uncooperative in meeting halfway and how she won’t let him see their kid if I tag along, even flying was out of the question. We had also agreed that since dealing with the new baby would be a struggle it was best to wait for the holidays, especially since my partner has shown he gets overwhelmed when I NACHO because his kid is just so high maintenance. I had to cut my maternity leave short by a month because it was unpaid and funds are low- lo and behold, HCBM hits him with “I’m overwhelmed and want a vacation, take SK.” My baby cries a lot, I’m a first time mom and despite loving them more than life itself, they’re a lot. This is where my anxiety comes into play. HCBM constantly antagonizes my partner in front of their kid because “he’s a piece of shit” for having another kid and she constantly refers to my baby as a “distraction” if she hears them cry or fuss. She alludes that all the attention is on the new baby now. I don’t know their kid that well, I’ve only met them twice in person. They’re practically a stranger. I don’t know what their mother has told them in regard to their new sibling, I don’t know how they are with other children. My partner has told me that they’ve even bullied their cousin. They’re used to being the center of attention. I won’t be there to constantly supervise, and since my partner is too trusting and careless at times, I’m scared something will happen to my baby. SK is also sick like all the time- Covid and strep this year alone- and my baby isn’t old enough for their vaccines yet. I’m holding so much resentment for my partner and even myself because this is a child I’m talking about. I know I shouldn’t feel this much aversion towards them. But every time I’ve brought up how I felt, he stays silent and then says this is my stepchild we’re talking about and how I sound like a bitch. I’m so tired and I don’t know what to do.