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His parents bailed him out and he got released earlier today. His parents have always hated me and didn’t believe me after they found out what happened, so I’m not surprised they helped him. His sister believes me though and is on my side. He obviously has a bunch of conditions he’ll need to follow now, but I’m still worried he’s going to try to find me and hurt me or worse kill me. Since the day he was arrested and up until now I’ve felt safe and almost happy and now I’m back to feeling scared, sad and on edge. It’s exhausting. My plan moving forward is to stay with my best friend permanently. He doesn’t know her address and she lives like half an hour away from the city he lives in and I used to live in.

My ex had his arraignment today. I didn’t go, but I wrote a statement for my friend to bring. The outcome wasn’t at all what I was hoping for. He got a $50k bond but he’s still in jail for now. He has a no contact order and can’t come anywhere near me and if he gets out he’ll have to wear an ankle bracelet and surrender his gun. I’m so scared his family is gonna bail him out. I wouldn’t put it past them. They never liked me and they have the money to if they wanted. I won’t feel safe at all if he’s released even with all those conditions. If he really wants to hurt me he’ll find a way. None of this will stop him.

I’m still in the ED doing a rape kit but I’m feeling the best I’ve ever felt since I moved in with my ex. It’s strange. I’m in a lot of pain right now but I’m safe and I no longer have to live by his rules anymore. I can now eat whenever and what I want, I can now go anywhere whenever I want, I can now wear all the makeup I want and whatever clothes I want without having to ask anyone if it’s ok. Probably the most important thing to me that he took away was my music. If you’ve read my first post you know what happened to my guitar. He also burned all my songs I wrote and never stopped letting me know how much he hated my voice. I don’t know if I can ever go back to my music. It hurts too much thinking about it. I do have a little piece of bad news to share. I reluctantly decided to take a pregnancy test and I’m sure you can guess what the results were. It sucks that he has so much power over me and my body but I’m gonna get through this. There is no way I’m having this baby and he will never know he could’ve had a child

I got out over an hour ago. I was so shaken and scared so that’s why I didn’t update y’all sooner. I’m currently in the ED with my best friend. I’m not in the best shape physically from last night. I’m still bleeding a little from the rape, my nose is broken, everywhere is sore or bruised or bleeding and I’m just so angry I didn’t leave before last night but also so relieved that hopefully all of this is over. I’ve had all my injuries documented and I’m just waiting on a rape kit and to make a statement with the police. When my boyfriend went out back to mow the lawn I made a run for it across the street to our neighbor’s home leaving everything behind but my phone. Thank god they were home before he noticed I was gone. They let me in and called the police and an ambulance.

My boyfriend was arrested. I’m gonna pursue legal action against him and I’m gonna get a restraining order. I called my mom and my sister too and they’re flying in as soon as they can. For the time being I’m gonna move in with my best friend and when I’m discharged we’re gonna go back to the house and pack up all my things. I’m so embarrassed having to tell everyone what’s happened to me and for them to see me like this. I want this all to be over and I wanna start rebuilding my life. I don’t think I’m ever gonna trust another man outside of my family again. I put all my trust in my boyfriend to protect me and love me and instead he beat and raped me multiple times and destroyed my self worth. Thank you for all of your comments and advice. I couldn’t have built the courage to leave without you all 🤍

After reading all the comments from my last post and after doing some research. I decided to pack a go bag and I finally told my best friend about everything that has been going on in my relationship. She was really supportive and we made a plan for me to leave on Tuesday while he’s at work all day. She promised not to get the police involved right now. I felt so hopeful that I could finally get out of this hell, but tonight he found my go bag under our bed. It was the stupidest place to put it. I don’t know what I was thinking.

When he found it, he beat and raped me the worst he’s ever done and I genuinely thought he was gonna kill me. I’m shocked he didn’t. He destroyed everything in my bag and went on this whole angry rant about how I don’t love him and how he doesn’t ever wanna hurt me and I bring it upon myself and how hurt he is I was planning to leave him. After tonight, I’d be lucky if I make it to Tuesday. I’m considering telling my best friend what happened and to call the police to come here tonight or tomorrow.

I 21 F met this guy at my work a few months ago who’s 23. He came across as really sweet and funny and smart. After a month of dating I decided to move in with him. Immediately after, everything went downhill. He became really aggressive and controlling and found joy in degrading me and making me feel terrible about myself. I can’t leave the house without him approving my outfit, hair and makeup first, he assaults me physically and sexually whenever I mess up or upset him, I had to ghost all my friends and family or that would mean I didn’t love him, without asking me he sold my mini fridge, bike and a bunch of my jewelry, he’s beaten me with my own guitar and he controls when and what I eat and when I can leave the house. I don’t know what happened to him. Was he always like this? Did I do something? Did I not fully realize who he was? I don’t know. I hate living like this but I also love him still and want to try to make it work. Am I crazy?