Mother's Day Nightmare Continues
I live with my mother in law. She's no where near a problem like my mom. Well, she left for half a month to do some business with father in law (he's also diagnosed BPD yaay) but while MiL struggles to get her financial affairs in order with FiL (whom is making everything hell) I sent a group chat reply to all of my mothers side of the family. My grandma, aunts, mom, cousins, sister...they're ALL MOMS. So I sent a very generic message trying to celebrate them all...I mainly want to put the focus on my sister since she's new to motherhood and my mother was PISSED. She ranted at my sister saying how DARE your sister send the family a mother's day text before calling her to wish her a happy mother's day... I cannot win. I'm trying to keep low contact with her so the group message was the best I could do to physically show the family I appreciated them all, including my own mom. She's been telling my sister how horrible I am for this, and how I celebrated the entire day with my MiL. She's wrong. I didn't even text / call MiL to wish her happy mother's day because she was spending majority of the day in a hostage situation with her own partner wBPD. Anyways...just needed to vent. I think it's bewildering to see I did something like send a casual text to be met with vicious gossip. Also, my bday is late April. My mom will make the ENTIRE day about her. She claims "this is the REAL DAY I became a mom so it's important to celebrate me too!" So after hijacking my own birthday she also needs to hijack mother's day to be entirely about herself and not choose to celebrate the 15 other moms in her family.