Joking about sex with other partners
Widow (69), dating a widower (will be 69 in 5 days) who makes jokes about having sex with someone else. Both of us were in 40+ year marriages. We have great sex - thank you Cialis !! We talk openly about our fantasies. We talk openly about our previously sexual partners including our spouses. We've been seeing each other about 8 months. Once he sent me a photo of a young dancing girl at a bar and asked if we could have a threesome with her. Last night while he was out of town, he called me and told me he needed a dental dam (condom for oral sex on a woman). He was pretty lit - I think he said he had 6-7 drinks. We're both pretty quiet and non confrontational. So I just got very quiet. We had a little texting conversation about it and he said I don't understand his sarcasm.
Important info - I've told him a dozen times "Please do whatever you need/want with whatever time you have left on this planet. We both lost our spouses to awful deaths". I think sarcasm is passive aggressive with an element of truth. Opinions ?? Thoughts ?? Advice ??