u/grinanberit

Do any of you have friends or family members who cheer you on? Who celebrate your wins with you? Because if you do, you should hug & thank them, because I’m learning that’s a rare thing these days.

I’ve lost 92lbs so far, saw my supposed bff tonight who I haven’t seen in 16 months, and did I get a “You look great!” or a “I’m so happy for you!”? Nope. I got irritation and resentment. Which I knew to expect, as I’ve seen a lot of folks on here sharing their similar experiences. I just thought maybe with my bff of 30 years, it might be different. I don’t have any family, she’s pretty much it. Yes I agree that life is too short to tolerate folks who meet your successes with resentment instead of joy. Yes, I’m working on finding new friends but DAMN it’s slow going.

So in the meantime, if you wouldn’t mind, while I’m feeling vulnerable and sad and stupid right now, could you just drop a “I’m so happy for you” or something similar in the comments? I’ve worked really hard for the last 20 months, counted calories & protein & fiber, strength training at the gym (I’m deadlifting 125lbs now!), seeing my dr and getting all the blood tests, and just one atta girl would really help right now. Thanks.

UPDATE: Thank you all so much! You’ve been so kind and supportive, it was just what I needed! If I haven’t responded to you yet I’ve just run out of time and need to get to work but I’m looking forward to reading your comments later tonight, bless you all and thank you for raising my spirits!

Yes, I know this is a dumb question. Nevertheless:

The creatine powder I’ve been taking has a consistency of powdered sugar. I’ve been using the scoop that came with it to scoop a heaping scoopful, then pack it against the inside wall of the container making sure there’s no empty air space in the scoop, before dropping it into my liquid. Like packing a snowball good and tight before tossing it.

Didn’t think too much about it until a friend asked me what I was doing and told me I was just supposed to scoop and drop, not scoop, pack, and drop. That the 5mg per scoop was NOT based on packing that soft powder down until there was nothing but powder in that scoop.

Which of us is right? Or does it even matter since we’re probably only talking 1-2mg difference, if that?

Heinie’s has some good ones (the pumpkin chocolate chunk they sell in the fall is amazing) but I’m just tired of driving so far. The farmers markets and coffee shops have some but they tend to be smaller single servings when I’m looking for a loaf I can slice that will last a week (5-7 servings).

Just too lazy to bake my own and heat up my kitchen, ugh.

Anything comparable within 5 miles of downtown Denver?

Has anyone who lost more than 70lbs had to refactor their goal weight to take into account their extra skin that isn’t snapping back?

At my thinnest healthiest weight I was 135. But that was three decades ago, and it looks like I’m on my way to losing 100+ pounds in total which means a lot of extra skin which has its own weight. So instead of my goal being 135, should it maybe be more like 150?

I’m currently at 173, and I’m thinking when I hit 150 I’ll go for a DEXA scan and let that guide me. I guess I’m just looking for others who’ve already been through this who might have advice?

And I know I’m supposed to wait one year after hitting goal before getting plastic surgery. But I’d like to start learning more about that now, so if anyone has seen any good videos, or knows of a good forum, please share. I tried the plasticsurgery subreddit but it was too broad.

I’m going to do an IRA to Roth IRA conversion this year. When do I have to pay the taxes on it? It will be a substantial amount, so I will also be selling stock from my individual account (long-term capital gains) in order to pay these taxes… so I guess I also need to know when would I have to pay the capital gains taxes?

I would love to pay all of it later, as part of my 2027 income tax filing, but I’m afraid there may be some rules about having to pay in the same quarter that I do the conversion/sell the stock? I tried googling this but the Safe Harbor rule just confused the heck out of me.