Do Virgo women given love a second chance?
I (30M) Scorpio have recently rekindled with a (31F) Virgo. We briefly dated 4 years ago where we had gone on a few dates and slept together, the chemistry was insane but I ended things due to timing (I was just out of a relationship and still living at home)
About a year and a half ago she followed me on instagram and were started talking again, we planned on meeting up then she went ghost for a week without warning the day we were supposed to meet. When she eventually texted me back i cut things off due to the lack of communication. Since that time she would like or reply to my insta stories, and a few months ago i replied to hers and she suggested meeting up, so 2.5 months ago, we finally made it happen.
Our first date was just getting beers to kinda feel it out and everything went great. Two days later, I took her to a concert and we had an amazing time, the spark and chemistry were definitely still there. After that, we didn't see each other for a month due to both of us traveling, but we were still texting every day.
Three weeks ago, on our third date, we had deeper conversations and talked about past relationships and I apologized for and explained why i ended things the first time, and reassured her im looking for a long term relationship. At the end of the night we kissed, then after I got home she said she had so much fun and wants to meet again soon. But honestly since then things have kinda seemed off.
On the Wednesday after that we made light plans to meet over the weekend depending on when she got done work, then I never heard from her until Sunday night. I told her it felt rude that she just left me hanging all weekend and would’ve appreciated her sending me a quick text letting me know. She then sent me a long message apologizing and saying she enjoys spending time with me and getting to know me but wants to take things slow because she doesn’t feel fully comfortable with her English and said “lately everything is so stressful for me, I don't know why but I'm really stressed. I genuinely want to make time for you but I'm constantly in "overthinking mode” and lots of things have been happening because she’s dealing with visa issues” (she's from Turkey) I told her I completely understand and dont want to add to the stress so just let me know when’s a good time for you, but we continued to stay in contact daily.
Then last weekend, a friend of mine saw her on a dating app, sent her a like, and they matched. She texted me right away to tell me about it and reassured me that I’m the only person she’s actually going on dates with and really likes me. It definitely made me feel a bit uneasy, but I appreciated her transparency. The following day, she said she wants to introduce me to her friends and also made a joke about whether I was scared to tell my mom we're dating.
On Sunday, I went to her friend's house and met three of her Turkish girlfriends and her friend's fiancé. It went really well in my opinion. Her friends were very welcoming and friendly, and were engaging with me a lot. We had dinner, drinks, and played cards.
Afterwards, her friend tagged me in her insta story and followed me.
Part of me feels like things are progressing well, but also finding out she’s actively on dating apps, while telling me she wants to take things slow and only getting to see her every few weeks has me feeling quite uneasy.