r/virgoseason

I dont know where to start, or if this is the right thread for insight. Pisces F 31, in a on & off LDR with a 27 F Virgo. We bump heads a lot when it comes down to proper communication, actually understanding where both sides are coming from when we argue. I told her when we met the way she addresses me to people & out of anger calling me a bitch, is a dealbreaker and shes vocally made it known of a practice to not do that. Im not the best person, nor medically diagnosed of being narcissistic, but i do show traits and my actions are npd like, and shes called me this many times. Ironic whenever we fight, it's around our "anniversary" date, the 4th. Ive had a long week dealing with job issues, finding out my dog has cancer, on top of supporting her with what shes got going on and days ago i jokingly said an argument would seal the deal. Friday I forgot to unmute her while I was talking to a customer & in the midst realizing this is the day, avoiding confrontation made shit worse and now im the bad one for not having a clear answer. I expressed her reaction is overboard, as in generally an issue people should not give a fuck about. Whenever shes upset her old ways pop out and Im left feeling like shit cause I keep taking this girl back expecting a change, while I progress and work with her that Im slow at understanding emotions and tryna do better at validating her.

We go months not communicating, and I end up answering the phone to her having some type of mental breakdown at 3am and support her...but when Im going through one in front of her bc im overwhelmed of being shut out by her, im called out my name and sent mindgame texts like this.

I am a bit embarrassed posting this.
I really do try not to offend people, and I’m always very mindful because I know Virgos have a reputation for being too critical. If anything, I think I overcommunicate because I’m trying so hard to make sure I’m understood, yet I often end up feeling misunderstood anyway.

I’ve noticed this seems to happen a lot with my Cancer and Leo friends, both men and women.
For context, I’m a Virgo Sun, Aries Moon, Gemini Rising, and this friend is a Leo Sun, Cancer Moon, Cancer Rising guy. We both have Virgo as mercury so I thought we would get each other

I’m honestly at the point where I just want to keep to myself even with friendships because I feel terrible whenever I unintentionally hurt someone’s feelings.

Before I stop opening up or giving advice, though, I want honest feedback.
Please be brutally honest.
Did my messages come across as criticism?
Could I have communicated this differently?
How would you have worded it?
For context, I’m a yoga teacher and have also worked as a personal trainer for several years. During my training, we were taught that genetics absolutely play a role in muscle development, athletic performance, and body composition.

I’m attaching screenshots of the conversation because I genuinely want to know if I could have handled it better.

Hi everyone

I am a Capricorn woman recently married to a Virgo man. We have only been married a few months. I know us Caps tend to take everything seriously but I am noticing some changes in him between before and after the wedding.

Before marriage he was one way and now some things feel different. Nothing terrible overall things still look good but it is not exactly the same. Is this normal? Is it just me experiencing this or have other Capricorn Virgo couples noticed similar shifts after marriage?

Any advice from people in similar pairings especially longer term ones would be really appreciated!

Thanks ❤️