u/Taldarimlove

I realized today that as a Canadian, I cannot opt-out if my data being sold via the app/website. I got an increased amount of spam calls since installing the app. Does anyone have any solutions? I don't really want to have to delete and remake my account every time because it won't solve the issue of my data being sold.

1. They accuse you of playing dumb even when you aren't. Probably to test if you actually caught on to them.

2. They accuse you of doing things they do.

3. They are frustratingly competitive even in non-competitive scenerios.

4. They can be right sometimes —a broken clock is right twice a day. This often throws you into loops where you question whether they really are abusive.

5. They have a high addiction rate and low tolerance to pain. They can pretend not to feel physical pain if it means not being exposed as weak.

6. They start shit out of nothing just because they are bored. They get bored often because they lack a sense of self.

7. They will make attempts to steal your identity, if they see you happy they want to be you.

8. They feel envious almost always if not always. If you have a good partner in their minds they will assume you don't deserve them.

9. They tend to have sleep issues. It's really ironic because they will pray you ate haunted by them but then they can't sleep at night because their inner voice is keeping them awake telling them they aren't enough.

10. They are still human. However regardless of their past, and regardless of what trauma they endured they are responsible for getting better.

11. They are never responsible. Unless their ego is on the line then they will do their best to deflect accuse and attack you.

12. They like doing the silent treatment and setting up traps where you react in a negative way. That way they can make you feel the shame they believe you deserve even though its their own shame they run from.

13. They will traumatize their victims with a similar version of their own trauma if they can. They don't believe you deserve to be happy and healthy. If they have an STI so should you.

14. They pretend to be charming and kind and loving, especially at the beggining of a relationship just to suck you into the dynamic.

15. They will try to make you feel guilty if you are ever right. "Oh X is always right about everything, they think they are better than everyone else." Even if you are only sometimes right and you don't really believe you are better.

16. Your success is percieved as a threat.

17. Your freedom and time alone is perceived as a threat. Which is ironic when they give you the silent treatment. They just want you to chase but when you don't they get angry and vengeful.

18. They want to paint you as crazy and unable to take care of your own needs so they can come in and play the hero. This makes them feel superior to the broken object which in their eyes is you.

19. They will try to undermine your healing by popping back up in your life every so often.

20. They just don't want to be forgotten, it is equivalent to death. They need to be wanted or else they go ballistic.

21. They don't change unless they spend years in therapy. They will go to therapy for a bit when pressured but will comeback stronger and more vindictive because they will also now be armed with therapy speak.

... I can keep going on but at the end of the day they are just exhausting... which reminds me they will make you sound bad for holding onto something bad they did. They will make you look like the one who can't let go of the past and try to make you abandon your own self-worth. Remember time doesn't heal— open communication does. They don't want to communicate because vulnerability is dangerous to them.

It feels like once people realize that they can't get in your pants or at least there is none they kinda dip? Tbh I have a partner and that is part of the reason I throw out my ace card its to make it easier on me rather that just sayin I already have someone.

It's funny because I am trans and a lot of the people who seem to think they can get with me are trans lesbians - I am not making an assumption a dead ass thing that happens to me. This one girl said to me "Maybe you do not like sex because you haven't been with the right partner." I dead ass told her that it gives "oh you are a lesbian? Maybe you haven't been with a real man before" Energy. That shut them up, they did apologize and I haven't heard from them in two weeks lol.

Like I wish people didn't try to challenge your relationship status after you say no. I also do have a preference for abstaining from sex because it isn't something that interests me.