u/Taldarimlove

I think maybe the premise why I assigned myself the label was because of the discourse of other people. Every time I would say I am not interested sexually I was told, "That sounds ace to me." I enjoyed the label while I held onto it.

The spectrum kind of ruins the label for me, and I mean the truth is I don't want to be hated for denying others what they feel. I know systemically there is a stigma against people who avoid sex in general because it isn't socially normative.

I felt like I needed to vent in my prior post because someone I cared about hurt me with repetitive boundary violations. I needed a space to vent my frustrations, but I honestly think I don't care anymore. I have since wiped my conversations with said friend and deleted their contact. I am not going back into another cycle of questioning my boundaries.

I know I am wanted, and it sucks because I do not enjoy denying people what they want. That being said, I am in a relationship, and I literally have nothing to prove to anyone. Peace.

I think a lot of self-proclaimed asexuals who like sex are just introverted shy incels who will have sex if they get "lucky." I keep making friends with "asexuals" who tend to have crushes on me, and it gets on my nerve.

Epsecially when they start talking about stuff like their friends' profile on "fetlife." Like bruh I don't give a fuck what people do if they like having sex good on them, I told you several times before I do not like to discuss the topic because it doesn't interest me.

When people come up to me and start talking to me about sex its akin to a neurotypical person having to sit through someone trying to explain agility training in runescape. I will be nice to them and gently tell them that I am not interested in it.

Next, thing I know they are psychoanalyzing me like I am broken.

"Oh, you haven't met the right partner."

Then they get all passive aggressive when you dissmiss them over and over and over and over again. They say sorry and then do it again, and again... and again. And its not like I want to gatekeep, cuz if you ace you ace if you aren't you aren't I hate that its become a cool label to hide being for shy people who just want an excuse to why they don't "get laid."

Bah. That was my rant. Thank you for sitting through my TEDtalk.