u/gutsRA

I (28F) got refused entry from a club last night because they found two small bags of drugs on my person

The check was ruthless honestly, and the manhandling out the venue was brutal even though I went willingly

They scanned my ID beforehand

They told me to leave but didn’t explain anything else.

Horrible anxious this morning that I’m now banned from that venue and all future venues with scanners as I work within the music events scene… has left me very sad this morning

Has anyone had experience with this before?

Feels like such a niche situation to be in but I had to vent because its gotten me down today. I don’t really feel comfortable joining my local comm for personal reasons, even though I’d genuinely like to.

I moved to this city within the last 2 years. When I mentioned wanting to join the local comm, my partner of 3 years (who lived here long before we started dating) warned me that one of the members strongly dislikes him and has made him uncomfortable for a long time. 

Long story short, a mutual friend introduced them in a nightclub years ago, the lolita in question tried to hit on him, he rejected her and she responded very poorly. She spread a lot of vicious rumours and false allegations about him. Despite blocking her, he still finds fake accounts (which are clearly her) watching his Instagram stories. He crosses the road when he sees her as he finds the whole situation traumatic.

He told me he wouldn’t stop me from joining, but he was worried that once this person realised who I’m dating, things could become unpleasant for me too, especially if others have believed what she said.

 I decided it was not worth joining at all, but honestly it does make me sad sometimes. It's a very small comm but I see them attending big events and taking cute pics together on social media and I wish I could experience that sense of community too. I don't have many friends, it would have been a nice way to do so, but even seeing members of the comm outside in the street makes me very anxious despite having never interacted with them. Possibly they’d acc all be mostly quite inviting if I tried to join (?) but I’m too afraid of being humiliated if that is not the case.

It’s just a really strange situation to be in, and I wondered if anyone else has experienced excluded from their local comm for personal reasons rather than fashion-related ones.