u/gymknob77

So over got this neighbour of 11.5 years. Shes 75 im 41. Something is very very off with this women.

She lives alone and never has any visitors so id invite her down to me for some tea. So i started noticing a victim complex.

I'd invite her down for dinner and say ill pay for delivery etc. So the entire time she'd complain "theres never any options for vegetarians". Then the food would come and she'd just complain the entire time.

Or id get a too good to go and say wanna go for a walk and ill pass you any veggie stuff and a cake or whatever. She'd just complain the entire time and "no vegetarian options". She seemed to hate seeing me happy or something like she was trying to make me miserable like her.

Or id say "oh my bathroom window is broken" she'd say "iiiiiiii havn't even got a bathroom window". Or when I broke my foot "mmmmmmy freind might lose his leg". No matter what it is, she's always got it worse.

Or i was on the dating apps for a bit and she says "well there must be something wrong with them on there at that age". Then I'd see her scanning my face looking a reaction. I refused to give one. She repeated that exact same insult at least 3 times a few weeks apart. It didn't get her whatever reaction she was looking for so kept repeating it.

Bizzarly, I fixed her Phone for her and saw the dating apps on her phone, literally all of them with notifications. Yet, she threw that insult AND had asked me how they work whilst already being on them. Very strange.

or another time I was seeing someone and it didnt work out and i was telling her about it. I saw the look on her face, she was happy about it. Actually. Wtf?!

So around this time all her kids and grandkids went no contact with her and the one kid who does speak to her moved to china!!

So anyway I started distancing from her as much as pissible. Then all of a sudden she's giving me the silent treatment. Not speaking at all. Even crossed over to avoid me one time. I thought great problem solved. Adios hun.

This is where it gets really weird. Im no contact with my own abusive mother and as such she used to turn up at my flat and be ringing my doorbell all the time and try to force her way in. I did a police report and she backed off. For that reason I dont answer my doorbell ever unless im expecting someone.

So for years now my doorbell has been ringing all hours of the night and in the day and stuff. I always presumed it was mother dearest and ignored it. It upsets me.

So this neighbour I noticed she would ask me about it alot and as a result I had a suspicion SHE might be doing it to upset me on purpose but I had zero proof nor evidence. When she'd ask me about it she'd have a little smirk on her face. That's what it was that got my attention.

So i noticed every sundat for about a month the doorbell is going at about 3pm. So one sunday i was ready for it. I was literally just locking my doors and my bell goes. I was at fhe communual feont door in 3 seconds.

it was her. I saw my neighbour sneaking in trying to quietly close the door with both hands in it and a smirk. She turned and saw me standing there and looked like a deer in headlights then she silently ran off upstairs. I CAUGHT HER DOING IT!

That woman has sat in my home in my couch drinking my tea asking me about it for EIGHT YEARS and the entire time it was her. I was thinking on it when I broke up with my ex the doorbell ringing atarted up again and she'd ask me about it. She was using my ex as a cover wanting me to think he was stalking me or something. Or there was another ex same thing again. She's giving baby reindeer!

Also the doorbell ringing has completely stopped since I caught her. It kinda speaks for itself.

So lately shes been in the garden alot trying to get my attention, I ignore her and act like she doesn't exist. Or i saw her in the shops and she tried to talk to me. I ignored her and silently walked away. Shes hoovering...

So anyway ive done an asb report with the landlord (housing association) whom has thusfar done nothing. I reported this 3 months ago and specifically asked for a welfare check because shes clearly unwell and is also hoarding in the flat.

"That'll go to the asb team" then "that'll go to the housing management team" 3 months ago. Silence ever since. So i've done a formal complaint about their inaction, that's been ignored as well.

What can i do here? This behaviour obviously isn't normal!

edit- Im thinking seeing as the landlord isn't doing anything do a police report and ask them to issue a harassment PIN. Maybe adult social services as well.