How to cope with many life changes?
Hello! 25F here. I’ve been going through a lot of changes in my life and could use the advice of some of stability-loving ISFJs like myself. There has been a lot going on, but I will try to be concise.
In Dec 2022, one semester away from my college graduation, my grandfather unexpectedly passed. It was hard on all of us. He was the rock in our family and it was shocking to us. My mom moved in with my grandma to care for her until she passed in Feb 2024.
In August 2024, I moved states to start my teaching career. It was hard to move away from my family and friends, especially after the loss of my grandparents, but I did. It was the hardest year of my life, possibly. I ended up in therapy and on an anxiety med (which was INCREDIBLY helpful). Then in April 2025, I met a guy.
We became bf/gf and dated seriously. I loved his family. I felt like my life was finally beginning: living on my own, at the start of my career, in my first relationship and talking about the potential for marriage.
And then in January 2026, he unexpectedly broke up with me. I was completely blindsided. He wanted more time to focus on his business, in a nutshell. This was something we had discussed before, months previously, and he was adamant that it wouldn’t be an issue.
I was devastated. I barely ate for two weeks. I felt like I lost the future I’d been building towards and actually began to question to meaning of my life. And then the final blow: my school told me I wouldn’t be renewed for the following year.
So, having lost my relationship and my job, I decided to move back home and start a new career. I’m very happy to back home and am happy in my new office job. I’ve been dating but nothing has stuck and some of the rejections have hit harder than others.
I find myself struggling with feelings of emptiness and ask myself “what’s the point” of work, hobbies, etc. I want to have a family and it feels like I’m running out of time and don’t have control over my life. I’m also a devout Catholic and have found myself struggling in my spiritual life in the wake of all this. My close friends have mostly moved away from home as well. I should add though that I am still on my medication and am starting up with a new therapist now that I’ve moved states.
I’d welcome any advice you have to give!