u/hey2op

Salam 3alikom khouti

This Monday, my sister is getting proposed (الخطبة). The man will come to our house with his father, mother, and three brothers to speak with my parents and my sister.

They're richer, more handsome, and older than I am.

And me - I'm ugly , I have a face full of acne, I always look tired, I don't know how to talk to people, and I panic whenever I'm around strangers(Anxiety and panic attacks)

I don't want to embarrass my sister, so I decided to leave the house when they come.

But my sister wants me to stay by her side

I'm afraid I'll just make things worse(my relationship with her is not that good either)

Any advice?

Salam 3alikom

I’m 17 years old and studying in 1st year baccalaureate. Anyway, I have four problems. First, I want to know how to move on from things I can’t change, like my height, my looks, and my family situation. Every time I try to heal or feel better, something happens that pulls me back down again. For example, when I walk past groups of girls or boys, they laugh and insult me loud enough for me to hear them. Last month, someone even called me a cockroach. My family also doesn’t seem to care about me at all, and they constantly try to put me down in every possible way.

Second, I think I might have anxiety. Whenever I go outside and walk around people, my eyes start tearing up, I feel extremely nervous, and sometimes I start shaking. It has been like this for two years. Third, I have an oversharing problem. When I was younger, I came to the conclusion that the only way to make people love me was to give them things I can’t even give myself and treat them as if they were more important than me, like my parents and my friends. But in the end, I just get used. Finally, my grades are really bad, and the regional exam is only 19 days away. I’m starting to think about either failing this year and trying again next year, even though my parents would destroy me for it. or try to study now and at least get some points.

(I also have health problems like panic attacks, chest pain that feels like mini heart attacks, and even coughing up blood sometimes)

If you have any advice or even a few words that could help me, I would truly appreciate it.