u/hiittrainer

Image 1 — 8 Years. Age 32 → 40. Slow Gainers: This One’s for You.
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8 Years. Age 32 → 40. Slow Gainers: This One’s for You.

I almost never came back here to post this.

I actually came across this group again today and clicked on it because I was going to unfollow it. I don’t really come here for beard inspiration anymore.

Then it hit me. This group was the reason I kept going in the first place.

So before I leave, I feel like I owe you guys my story.

The first photo is me at 32 years old, January 2019, right before my 33rd birthday. I started minoxidil on January 7, 2019.

And when I say I couldn’t grow a beard, I mean I could practically count the hairs on my face. 😆

I started applying minoxidil twice a day and added derma rolling a couple times a wee during that first year.

And then I waited. And waited. And waited some more.

Meanwhile I found this group during my second year and would come on here and see some 22 year old dude post:

“3 months on minox! How’s my progress?”
And the motherfucker already looked like a lumberjack. 😂

To all you hyper responders who grew a Viking beard in 90 days. I love you, congratulations, and I also hated every single one of your progress posts. 😬

Because that was NOT my experience.

For the first few years, my progress was painfully slow. I’d count hairs. I’d compare pictures. I’d inspect my face constantly looking for new growth.

Every couple months I’d let it grow for a week or two thinking, Maybe this is finally it.

NOPE!!! Shave it. Minox. Dermaroll. Repeat.

I’d finally get a little progress and then I’d shed.
It would thin out and feel like I’d lost everything I’d spent months gaining. I would come here and get inspiration to keep going.

There were so many times I almost quit.

I heard every version of

“If you can’t grow one at your age, it’s probably not happening.”

“If minoxidil hasn’t worked after two years, it’s not going to.”

“Four years? Dude, give it up.”

And then there were the comments from the wife and very honest kids of mine about how bad the scruff looked or how terrible it felt when kissed. 😂

Eventually I stopped obsessing over it. I stopped counting days. I stopped checking my face every morning looking for another terminal hair.

Minoxidil just became something I did.

Brush my teeth.
Put that shit on my face.
Go live my life.

And somewhere around year FIVE, things finally started happening.

Not dramatically but Just slowly.

The biggest changes actually happened between 38 and now 40. At 38 one side had filled in completely and the moustache was looking really strong.

Then on January 1st of this year, I told my wife
“I’m growing this thing for three months. I don’t care how shitty it may or may not look. I’m not cutting it.”

For once, I gave it enough time to actually become a beard.

The last pictures are me today, August 2026.

And for the first time in my life, I have a beard I’m genuinely proud of. I’ve only really had this beard for about eight months, and now I can’t imagine my face without it.

That’s pretty fucking wild considering that just a few years ago I had basically accepted that I was going to be the guy who could never grow one.

I’ve used minoxidil consistently for almost eight years. Twice daily for the overwhelming majority of that time, along with dermarolling. I will finish up this year with minox twice a day and then next year once a day and then stop altogether after that. So 10 years of work by the time it’s all said and done. But well worth it.

So this post isn’t really for the guy who started three months ago and already has a forest growing on his face.

This is for the slow gainer. The older guy. The guy at year one wondering why nothing is happening.

The guy at year two comparing himself to everyone else.

The guy who sheds and thinks he just lost six months of progress.

The guy who’s 30, 35, 40 and keeps reading comments saying, “If you don’t have a beard by now, you probably never will.”

Don’t let somebody else’s timeline decide yours.

I have no idea whether my beard would have eventually developed like this without minoxidil, how much was age/genetics, or exactly how much each part of the routine contributed. All I can tell you is what my experience was:

32 → 40.

Almost eight years.

Barely anything for years.

Most of my noticeable progress came late. After I quit a lifelong habit of using cannabis which I do not know if that had anything to do with it or not. But it was the only difference in that 8 years.

And eventually, the guy who could count the hairs on his face grew the beard he’d wanted his entire adult life.

So if you’re a slow gainer like me, don’t beat yourself up because your month 6 doesn’t look like somebody else’s month 3.

If it’s something you want, don’t quit on yourself just because it’s taking longer than you hoped.

And to this group: genuinely, thank you.

I came here countless times over the years when I was discouraged. Other people’s progress kept me motivated when mine wasn’t giving me much reason to be.

I never contributed my own story and always dreamed about the day that I could, so this is me finally paying some of that back before I leave the group forever.

Hopefull some stubborn bastard who’s two or three years into his journey finds this when he’s thinking about giving up.

Keep going.

Turns out even an old fart like me can finally grow a beard at 40. 🤣

Photo 1: age 32
Photo 2: age 34
Photo 3: age 35
Photo 4: age 37
Photo 5: age 39
Photo 6/7/8: age 40 (today)

u/hiittrainer — 2 days ago

I need help with a severe iron well water pool before I walk away

I’ve been in the pool industry for several years and am CPO certified. I have one customer whose pool has probably consumed more of my time, research, and energy than every other pool I service combined.

At this point, I either need to find the missing piece or be honest with the homeowner that I may no longer be the right person for the job.

I’m hoping some of you who have fought severe iron in well water pools can tell me if I’m missing something.

Pool Background

* Private we’ll as water source
* Standard chlorinated pool (not salt)
* Approximately 30,000 gallons
* New pebble/plaster finish installed this year
* Pentair Sand Dollar SD80
* Fill water consistently tests 1.3–1.4 ppm iron
* Extremely high phosphates also originate from the well water

How this all started

I originally took over this pool in 2023 because it was swamp green with a CYA over 300 ppm.

I corrected the CYA issue, cleared the algae, and got the pool under control.

Then I started chasing extremely high phosphates. I honestly thought someone was dumping fertilizer into the pool every week before eventually tracing those back to the well water.

Once everything else was under control, I noticed a yellow dust settling throughout the pool.

At first I was convinced it was algae.
But it never behaved like algae.
It brushed away easily but never responded the way algae should.

The moment everything clicked was after a large refill with fresh well water. I shocked the pool, and within minutes the entire pool turned what looked like orange lemonade from flash oxidation.

That’s when I realized I was fighting iron.

Replaster

This spring the homeowner replastered the pool.

I recommended using a fresh water source for the refill, but it was filled from the same private well.

The very first day I arrived for startup, the water already had a heavy yellow/brown tint before I even started brushing.

I went into damage control mode and successfully completed the startup without staining the new plaster.

The pool looked fantastic. Until around June and the yellow settling slowly began coming back.

Today every surface below the water develops a fine yellow/orange film almost 24 hours after doing a detailed clean and balance.

Today’s Discovery

Today I opened the Pentair SD80.

The homeowner told me glass media had been installed in 2023, so I never had a reason to inspect inside the filter.

When I opened it, I found the filter is significantly low on media. Maybe 1/3 of the way full or even less.

Tomorrow I’m replacing all of it with the proper amount of new glass media and inspecting the laterals, standpipe, and multiport while I’m in there.

This has me wondering if the filter has gradually been losing media during backwashing for years, reducing its ability to capture oxidized iron. I haven’t seen any glass media on the ground after doing any backwash cycles at all over the three years I’ve maintained this pool. So I’m not fully convinced it ever had the proper amount in it either.

I’ve probably spent three times more time on this pool than any other account I service. I’ve changed chemistry, used sequestrants, added DE to the filter, consulted other techs, talked with a well company, reviewed years of photos, and I’m still chasing it.

I’m hoping this filter discovery will make a significant difference in appearance but doubtful.

My questions

  1. Have any of you maintained a pool with 1.3–1.4 ppm iron without treating the source water?
  2. Could an SD80 running significantly low on media explain why oxidized iron continually settles instead of being filtered out?
  3. Have you ever seen iron levels in a private well gradually increase over the years?

I’m attaching photos from the replaster startup, and the current condition.

I’m looking for guys who’ve actually fought extreme iron in well fed pools.

What worked? What didn’t?

Homeowner just texted me and said if I don’t get it fixed and looking good that they are going to find someone else to clean their pool. Thought that was pretty funny considering how much time I’ve put into this bullshit pool. Any helpful insight appreciated.

u/hiittrainer — 22 days ago