How To Move Out With No License Or Stable Job
I (20F, soon 21) live at home with my parents and my cat. It is bearable for the most part, but my parents are toxic and my mother is sometimes physically abusive. I have very restricted freedom due to not having a license yet. I have been trying to learn driving, but we don't have the money for proper driving classes so I've been learning with my dad whenever he's free, but he leaves a lot of things out and the way he learned driving is very different from the way it is now, so I'm not confident in my skills just yet.
I have a job at a restaurant, but because I'm dependent on my parents driving me there and being free+I am usuallybusy with classes, I only work two 4 hour shifts a week (many times even less than that because my parents force me to attend events I had no prior knowledge of/no say in and force me to cancel work). I take the bus part way to my job, but even then, the closest bus stop is an hour walk away, so my parents need to drop me off at the bus stop+my dad picks me up when my shift ends because they don't want me taking the bus at night, and they want me to quit my job because of how much time it takes out of their day. I've looked into online jobs, but most of them are either scams or unsustainable as a college student.
I have no credit score because I wasn't allowed to get a credit card for religious reasons, and I have no idea how to get one on my own when I can't even drive to the bank (it might be for the best though; I have a nasty habit of going on impulsive online shopping sprees whenever I am stressed, which is often).
I don't have many real friends IRL, so there isn't really anyone I could ask for help with this. I have family, but they all live out of state and I have a feeling they would try to make me stay with my parents if they found out about my plan and possibly rat me out to them. Most of the older adults in my life would likely do the same, since most of them are friends with my parents and loyal to them; some of them even used to tattle on me when I was younger and the abuse was worse, sometimes even participating in the abuse themselves since the way they treated their kids was similar and they only saw it as discipline. I have an older brother, but he lives on the other side of the country now and his advice to me has always more or less been "keep your head down and it won't be as bad," which is true but it isn't something I can keep doing for years and years without going insane.
I just feel really lost and I don't have anyone I can look to in my own life for help or advice. What are your tips for 'adulting' that I need to know before living on my own? Do you have any free resources for things like financial literacy and the like? Do you have any recommendations for earning and saving enough money in order to be able to move out in the first place?
I have a cat too, and I want to bring her with me as well if possible, especially since she has slight separation anxiety and I don't know if my parents would be able to take care of her when I'm gone, or if they would just return her to the shelter. That being said, I don't know if it would even be possible to take me with her since she's technically my parent's property, and I don't know if I would have the time and money to take care of her on my own. I thought about waiting until she passes away to move out, but she's 5 years old so that will probably be a pretty long time.