u/hndygal

Yikes! I’ve received 3 phone calls and 3 text messages so far that my child’s bus is running late. Here is the problem- my kids go to their school with special permission and don’t have a bus assigned. All paperwork is filled out that they aren’t allowed to ride the bus. I guess they’re just calling everyone today….sigh.

I know it’s the first day back and something happens every year but sheesh… I really am trying to work.

Tonight I lost my sh!+ on my narc mother. She called to tell me she collected and sold some silver belonging to my grandmother (my fathers mother, not hers) which did not belong to her, was not hers to sell and she did not ask if anyone wanted it…because “it was tarnished and I know you wouldn’t want this”. I told her it wasn’t her place or business and she didn’t even send a picture to ask- Nor was the profit hers to keep.

She moved to victim status immediately and in her rant was stupid enough to say “I’ve hated you since you were 11 and asked us if you could live with your science teacher. I was so offended and I told you no. I know you hated me. Then you never said a word about me at your church banquet for your high school graduation (5 years later), but you said all kinds of glowing things about your dad”.

People I am 52. She has been holding on to this grudge for 40+ years.

I explained through gritted teeth that as the parent it is her job to swallow the teen angst or discuss it. NOT to blame a CHILD for her pain for the next 40 years and take it out on both the child and her children when she eventually had them and did she ever stop to wonder WHY an 11 year old child would gather the courage to ask if she could live elsewhere? Maybe open a communication line about the child’s thoughts on reasoning etc. nope. Just she was wronged, and I need to suffer for it STILL.

It went on, more words were said. She tried to get me to allow her to come visit and desperately needed to say I forgive her. I don’t, nothing will change. Forgiveness isn’t an option if everything is the same. Plus nothing was solved. She still maintains I’m the problem. 🤷‍♀️

Whatever, she still isn’t invited to visit. She spent years making excuses why they couldn’t come while weekly visiting my brother and his family- He only maintains contact to drain her bank account. I’m the one she expects to fix the mess they create.

Ok rant over, it always goes on…but we all know the cycle.