Is it usual to have MASSIVE fluctuations in days?
Hi all
My wife has decided she has CF. She has had some bloods and nothing of note. She has not gone back it's been months. We have medical cover so this would not cost a thing.
Her general activity has gone down so much. Truth be told, I'm upset for her. She used to run a lot and now hardly has energy for it. She's a SAHW and we have a 17 and 22yr old living at home. She makes lunch for the 17yr old who has some medical challenges and dinner most nights. Dinner is always very simple.
She sometimes has energy to run 10-15km or go on 10mile walks and other times she's just sat on the said scrolling the whole day.
I work full time, take care of my breakfasts and lunches as well as lunch at the weekends. The kids could definitely do more, but she asks nothing of them and I feel like I'm the only one asking them so we're not aligned there.
I believe she is also depressed. Who wouldn't be. She doesn't want to go to therapy, even though has always advocates for others and the rest of us had have therapy.
I want her to be more active. For herself and for the family. The home is a tip. It's not clean and at times actually dirty. We can't afford a cleaner. It's like she doesn't see mess or dirt. I wish she'd use some of her energy days to sort the house out. She constantly goes on about needing help, but during my holidays time she is just sitting there scrolling all day. Same for most evenings. When I say let's sort together, she doesn't want to. I don't fancy this long term and feel like she should be getting help.
Bit of a ramble. Thoughts appreciated, TIA
ETA - 3/4 yrs ago she was an avid runner but then endometriosis got the better of her. I also have MSK challenges and have had chronic pain for 25+ years. I work longish hours and am also fatigued day to day. I think we are both quite lonely in this as she feels I don't support her enough, but I feel she should either be doing more to support the family or bothering our health practitioners to investigate further.