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TLDR: My Fiancé is planning Air Force enlistment through DEP. Both of us are in college and I’m living with him (he pays rent). We’re waiting to marry until i graduate (2027). Recruiter allegedly agreed to delayed ship (2027) but instead set early ship date. after MEPS swear-in he was told he must ship within months. Higher-up claimed leaving DEP means permanent Air Force ban, pushing us to compromise the ship date (Dec). We later learned that this may be false (that waivers are possible) and now we question what else they are lying about and what we should do.

So here’s the deal, my fiancé is planning on enlisting in the air force. We are both currently at university and living together. He dropped out this past semester and is planning on finishing once he’s in the military and is just waiting for me to finish my degree. I’m expected to graduate in may of next year, (2027.) We are waiting because currently live together in student housing and he pays the rent since he has a full time job and I’m focusing on school, I am not on the lease. If he were to suddenly go in before me graduating this arrangement would no longer work.

Our plan for the past 6 months was this: I graduate. We get married. He ships out in the military.

He heard about the delayed entry program (DEP) and how you could apparently wait a year to be shipped out and decided, “Why not get the ball rolling now and get it over with?” So he made the decision to talk to a recruiter about two months ago. I thought this was a bad idea because I knew the recruiter likely had a quota to follow and would try and get him to ship out as soon as possible. He reassured me and said his friend did the same thing and has been in the program for a year, so I just went with it.

We met with this recruiter and told him our plans (me graduating, marriage, etc.). My fiancé said several times that he wanted to ship out around June or July of 2027. He questioned why my fiancé was getting all of this started now now but essentially told him “Sure, we can get something figured out.”

Fast forward this recruiter schedules my fiancé to take the asvab and to go to meps to get a medical examination. He’s of course sworn in after this, and apparently this was a mistake.

After being sworn in the officers at meps asked about his ship out date because apparently the recruiter put down a date for june or july of this year. My fiancé was immediately confused by this in which he called the recruiter, who ended up telling him something along the lines of, “I wasn’t tracking when you said you wanted to go in. It’s best to go in now. We can talk more about it on Monday”. He wasn’t tracking even though my fiancé said the date he wished to ship multiple times???

So, Monday comes (today), and we go to the recruiters office. This recruiter is stubborn as hell and no matter how many times we reiterate that we wished for him to ship out later for a multitude of reasons (us saving for a wedding, us waiting for me to graduate, him just now getting a promotion with higher pay, and more) he wouldn’t budge and told us he would schedule a phone call for us to speak to his higher up.

While we wait for his call, my fiancé tells me if they refuse to let him ship out later, he’ll most likely leave the DEP and reenlist in a year and just do the meps process again. This higher up calls us and basically tells us since he had sworn in at meps, the (1 year rule) no longer applied since it’s not like he’s waiting on a job or anything like other people who do DEP and that he had to ship out within four months. We get really upset by this considering the recruiter conveniently left this out despite us telling him our plans.

Of course, my fiancé inclined on removing himself from the progr-‘ and rejoining later, and this guy tells us if he leaves DEP he’s never allowed to enlist in the air force again. This would suck because my fiancé isn’t interested in the other branches at all. The higher up says they can compromise and have him ship out in December, which still ruins everything we planned. Essentially, he’s forcing him to ship out then if he ever wants to be a member of the air force.

Then I talked to my uncle (who served in the army) and looked it up online, and I saw this wasn’t true and they lied, he would need a waiver and it would be harder, but he’s not banned from the air force.

Since they lied about that It makes me question is what else did they lie about? Is what they said about DEP true? That he HAD to ship out within the next few months and couldn’t wait a year? What is our best course of action? I understand as a future military spouse I will have to make sacrifices, but I wasn’t prepared to make these types of sacrifices until next year. I wanted to at least have one year with my civilian fiancé. Both of us are extremely angry about them lying and conveniently leaving out information.

TLDR: My Fiancé is planning Air Force enlistment through DEP. Both of us are in college and I’m living with him (he pays rent). We’re waiting to marry until i graduate (2027). Recruiter allegedly agreed to delayed ship (2027) but instead set early ship date. after MEPS swear-in he was told he must ship within months. Higher-up claimed leaving DEP means permanent Air Force ban, pushing us to compromise the ship date (Dec). We later learned that this may be false (that waivers are possible) and now we question what else they are lying about and what we should do.

So here’s the deal, my fiancé is planning on enlisting in the air force. We are both currently at university and living together. He dropped out this past semester and is planning on finishing once he’s in the military and is just waiting for me to finish my degree. I’m expected to graduate in may of next year, (2027.) We are waiting because currently live together in student housing and he pays the rent since he has a full time job and I’m focusing on school, I am not on the lease. If he were to suddenly go in before me graduating this arrangement would no longer work.

Our plan for the past 6 months was this: I graduate. We get married. He ships out in the military.

He heard about the delayed entry program (DEP) and how you could apparently wait a year to be shipped out and decided, “Why not get the ball rolling now and get it over with?” So he made the decision to talk to a recruiter about two months ago. I thought this was a bad idea because I knew the recruiter likely had a quota to follow and would try and get him to ship out as soon as possible. He reassured me and said his friend did the same thing and has been in the program for a year, so I just went with it.

We met with this recruiter and told him our plans (me graduating, marriage, etc.). My fiancé said several times that he wanted to ship out around June or July of 2027. He questioned why my fiancé was getting all of this started now now but essentially told him “Sure, we can get something figured out.”

Fast forward this recruiter schedules my fiancé to take the asvab and to go to meps to get a medical examination. He’s of course sworn in after this, and apparently this was a mistake.

After being sworn in the officers at meps asked about his ship out date because apparently the recruiter put down a date for june or july of this year. My fiancé was immediately confused by this in which he called the recruiter, who ended up telling him something along the lines of, “I wasn’t tracking when you said you wanted to go in. It’s best to go in now. We can talk more about it on Monday”. He wasn’t tracking even though my fiancé said the date he wished to ship multiple times???

So, Monday comes (today), and we go to the recruiters office. This recruiter is stubborn as hell and no matter how many times we reiterate that we wished for him to ship out later for a multitude of reasons (us saving for a wedding, us waiting for me to graduate, him just now getting a promotion with higher pay, and more) he wouldn’t budge and told us he would schedule a phone call for us to speak to his higher up.

While we wait for his call, my fiancé tells me if they refuse to let him ship out later, he’ll most likely leave the DEP and reenlist in a year and just do the meps process again. This higher up calls us and basically tells us since he had sworn in at meps, the (1 year rule) no longer applied since it’s not like he’s waiting on a job or anything like other people who do DEP and that he had to ship out within four months. We get really upset by this considering the recruiter conveniently left this out despite us telling him our plans.

Of course, my fiancé inclined on removing himself from the progr-‘ and rejoining later, and this guy tells us if he leaves DEP he’s never allowed to enlist in the air force again. This would suck because my fiancé isn’t interested in the other branches at all. The higher up says they can compromise and have him ship out in December, which still ruins everything we planned. Essentially, he’s forcing him to ship out then if he ever wants to be a member of the air force.

Then I talked to my uncle (who served in the army) and looked it up online, and I saw this wasn’t true and they lied, he would need a waiver and it would be harder, but he’s not banned from the air force.

Since they lied about that It makes me question is what else did they lie about? Is what they said about DEP true? That he HAD to ship out within the next few months and couldn’t wait a year? What is our best course of action? I understand as a future military spouse I will have to make sacrifices, but I wasn’t prepared to make these types of sacrifices until next year. I wanted to at least have one year with my civilian fiancé. Both of us are extremely angry about them lying and conveniently leaving out information.

TLDR: My Fiancé is planning Air Force enlistment through DEP. Both of us are in college and I’m living with him (he pays rent). We’re waiting to marry until i graduate (2027). Recruiter allegedly agreed to delayed ship (2027) but instead set early ship date. after MEPS swear-in he was told he must ship within months. Higher-up claimed leaving DEP means permanent Air Force ban, pushing us to compromise the ship date (Dec). We later learned that this may be false (that waivers are possible) and now we question what else they are lying about and what we should do.

So here’s the deal, my fiancé is planning on enlisting in the air force. We are both currently at university and living together. He dropped out this past semester and is planning on finishing once he’s in the military and is just waiting for me to finish my degree. I’m expected to graduate in may of next year, (2027.) We are waiting because currently live together in student housing and he pays the rent since he has a full time job and I’m focusing on school, I am not on the lease. If he were to suddenly go in before me graduating this arrangement would no longer work.

Our plan for the past 6 months was this: I graduate. We get married. He ships out in the military.

He heard about the delayed entry program (DEP) and how you could apparently wait a year to be shipped out and decided, “Why not get the ball rolling now and get it over with?” So he made the decision to talk to a recruiter about two months ago. I thought this was a bad idea because I knew the recruiter likely had a quota to follow and would try and get him to ship out as soon as possible. He reassured me and said his friend did the same thing and has been in the program for a year, so I just went with it.

We met with this recruiter and told him our plans (me graduating, marriage, etc.). My fiancé said several times that he wanted to ship out around June or July of 2027. He questioned why my fiancé was getting all of this started now now but essentially told him “Sure, we can get something figured out.”

Fast forward this recruiter schedules my fiancé to take the asvab and to go to meps to get a medical examination. He’s of course sworn in after this, and apparently this was a mistake.

After being sworn in the officers at meps asked about his ship out date because apparently the recruiter put down a date for june or july of this year. My fiancé was immediately confused by this in which he called the recruiter, who ended up telling him something along the lines of, “I wasn’t tracking when you said you wanted to go in. It’s best to go in now. We can talk more about it on Monday”. He wasn’t tracking even though my fiancé said the date he wished to ship multiple times???

So, Monday comes (today), and we go to the recruiters office. This recruiter is stubborn as hell and no matter how many times we reiterate that we wished for him to ship out later for a multitude of reasons (us saving for a wedding, us waiting for me to graduate, him just now getting a promotion with higher pay, and more) he wouldn’t budge and told us he would schedule a phone call for us to speak to his higher up.

While we wait for his call, my fiancé tells me if they refuse to let him ship out later, he’ll most likely leave the DEP and reenlist in a year and just do the meps process again. This higher up calls us and basically tells us since he had sworn in at meps, the (1 year rule) no longer applied since it’s not like he’s waiting on a job or anything like other people who do DEP and that he had to ship out within four months. We get really upset by this considering the recruiter conveniently left this out despite us telling him our plans.

Of course, my fiancé inclined on removing himself from the progr-‘ and rejoining later, and this guy tells us if he leaves DEP he’s never allowed to enlist in the air force again. This would suck because my fiancé isn’t interested in the other branches at all. The higher up says they can compromise and have him ship out in December, which still ruins everything we planned. Essentially, he’s forcing him to ship out then if he ever wants to be a member of the air force.

Then I talked to my uncle (who served in the army) and looked it up online, and I saw this wasn’t true and they lied, he would need a waiver and it would be harder, but he’s not banned from the air force.

Since they lied about that It makes me question is what else did they lie about? Is what they said about DEP true? That he HAD to ship out within the next few months and couldn’t wait a year? What is our best course of action? I understand as a future military spouse I will have to make sacrifices, but I wasn’t prepared to make these types of sacrifices until next year. I wanted to at least have one year with my civilian fiancé. Both of us are extremely angry about them lying and conveniently leaving out information.