u/iatethegarden

▲ 10 r/agender

is it okay for me to use any terms as an agender person?

so I recently came out as agender... and I simply js don't feels gender. I can look a certain way and feel happy abt myself. for example, I can dress "masc" and feel omg I'm so masc. and then dress "girly" and be like oh I'm girly looking... but during the summer of this year I realized that I've never rlly felt nothing toward having a gender identity. my outfits throughout my childhood were tomboy like, but as an adult more vampire goth dark.

when it comes to terms I'm fine w anything as long as it's not deadnaming, cause that feels like a hatecrime and a punch to my whole soul. some of my work/transportation/filling out documents involves "choosing" m or f so I do have to pick that surface level society typa stuff...

but I feel close to agender since gender is a concept and all, and I can't feel like a woman or a man. it's like how I'm also bisexual, I don't really care about "choosing", and for me, liking more than one gender can coexist with being no gender...

whenever I played games, I would choose either men or women, or creatures that don't rlly have genders sometimes.

for terms... I'm okay with boy girl, woman man, any pronouns, she/he/they [idk abt it/its though...]. I don't rlly know much terms tbh 😭 like... nb enby.

this is because I don't feel like the outside aspect represents how I feel on the inside. on the inside I'm me and using gendered terms or nongender/neutral terms will not change that :3

also, sometimes I like saying agen or agenders instead of agender cause they sound fun to say and comforting.

are there other terms I can try and use as an agender person?

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u/iatethegarden — 16 hours ago
▲ 20 r/agender

can I be agender and feel gender affirmed?

idk… I feel “gender affirmed“ I think, sometimes when I wear clothes or do something I just feel so free from gender. I just love that feeling. not feeling like a certain gender from “women clothing” or “men clothing“ or “unisex” not feeling like a man or woman or nonbinary inbetween. I like that feeling a lot. no gender… nothing. I love it. is this feeling “gender affirmed”???

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u/iatethegarden — 8 days ago