I was exploring campus this weekend and caught a man peeing between cars in a parking lot - is this normal or have you guys seen anything like this before? Not sure if I just got unlucky or if the washroom situation is bad.
For me, arousal is very dependent on mental state. Feeling validation from a partner wanting me, excitement about the situation, shared enthusiasm with my partner, excitement about kinks, etc. My girlfriend experiences it differently, needing to kind of zone out to enjoy the physical sensations.
While my girlfriend tolerates my kinks and is okay with sexual intimacy, she's accommodating me physically but mentally she's elsewhere. This leaves me still wanting the excitement and validation from others who might actively desire me or be excited by the same things I am.
I do love my girlfriend but would it be better to look for someone more sexually aligned with me? This is the first relationship I've been in so I have no benchmarks to compare to - I'm hoping you folks can help with more experienced perspectives.