u/ilesaintlouis

My entire tiktok fyp page has been flooded with this topic for the past few days so I’m genuinely curious what the experience is like for other Asians because I personally don’t relate to or understand the, for lack of a better word, fixation on race or being mixed.

I’m American (born and raised) but yeah, second gen; my parents immigrated here in the early 1980s. So ethnically I am West Asian/Middle Eastern.

Here in the US, I have cousins, friends and even one of my sisters married outside our race/culture; therefore, all have mixed kids but the fact that these individuals are mixed doesn’t really cross our mind? I mean, we acknowledge it but being mixed is not necessarily an identity or label that we focus on very much. For example, we don’t have specific terminology such as "Wasian," "Blasian," etc., to define them. Of course the mixed ones pick up on cultural differences but there’s no struggle of not being accepted by either group, which is something I read a lot about in tiktok comments.

I've been with my partner for about ten months now. We are not young kids (I am 35 and he is 47). Neither of us has children so we both want to keep this baby. It's a miracle I even got pregnant from a broken condom at this age, considering I have had endometriosis my whole life. My due date is the end of December 2026; by that time, my student visa will have expired. I don't qualify for RECE after graduation because I went to an American university in Paris. And I don't have a job but my family sends me money. He wants the child to be an EU citizen and tbh I'm not super keen on even giving my kid US citizenship or raising it there. I love my partner but he and I are culturally very different. He's German (living and working in France for over 20 years) and very very European. He doesn't believe in marriage. We're not PACsed because we've never lived together and I've just been renting my own apartment here the whole time we've been dating. I'm just confused about what happens once my visa expires and I give birth? Do I leave my child in France and go back to the US?????? Do I stay in France illegally?? I'm really freaking out and worried.