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But I also hated when I was working so that’s not the solution I don’t think?? I think really I’m just struggling with loneliness which is hard for me to grasp because we have friends and family we keep in touch with and do see fairly frequently. We try to get out of the house daily whether to the library or grocery shopping or the park. But I’m still just feeling lonely everyday when my husband is gone 9-10 hours at work. And for some reason ive just been so snappy and bitchy and I feel terrible, I don’t know why every little thing is setting me off. I wish my closest friends had babies and could understand. I have seperate mom friends that I’ve made but it’s been hard to get closer to them. All of my family has their own insanely busy lives and I feel like mine is just so dull. And ngl makes me feel like a loser kind of?? Always reaching out to people to hangout so I don’t go stir crazy by myself and they’re always busy with their own lives. Idk I guess I just want to see if anyone else can relate or has any advice maybe?

Posting this with my username is making me cry laugh. I know this is controversial, and I’m not proud of it.

I used to be one of those people that had an entire social media for their dogs. My golden retriever was my dream dog my entire life. My other dog was my emotional support animal that slept in bed with me every night. Now, I can’t even stand to look at them. They smell bad, they get hair EVERYWHERE (even though we have them gated off to just the main living area, it still gets all over the nursery), they scratch at the door bc they hate being outside without someone playing with them, they bark at neighbors… and just the rage that boils inside me when they do any of these literal normal dog behaviors is absurd.

I don’t know what to do. Really, if I could just have one I think I’d be so much better off but two??? Not saying I’d get rid of them but I just don’t know what to do. I can’t have people over because they bark and jump. I know I can train them, and they were trained but they are misbehaving more now and I don’t have time to enforce it again. My husband works 60 hours a week and when he’s home, he still helps around the house, with the baby, and bathes the dogs and everything, so yes I have help. It’s just so hard I don’t know what to do. I guess just looking for solidarity.

Helllooo I’m looking for my next fantasy read. Here’s my qualifications (just thing I typically like in fantasies):

- 3rd person
- solid magic system
- good but not too extensive/confusing world building (I’m a dumb bitch and lose focus)
- low romance but you know what I do like just a sprinkle
- I don’t mind YA (in fact I typically really enjoy it)

Fantasies I’ve liked in the past:

- Six of Crows by Leigh Bardugo (+ all of her other stuff)
- The Sword of Kaigen by M.L Wang
- The Raven Scholar by Antonia Hodgson
- An Ember in the Ashes by Sabaa Tahir
- Throne of Glass by SJM
- Red Rising (the first one ((I will admit I DNF’d the second idk why I just couldn’t vibe with all the intergalactic battles it felt like we got no where?? Unpopular opinion I know)))
- Heir by Sabaa Tahir
- Vicious by V.E Schwab (+ all her other stuff)

Other fantasies I have read and did not love (so they don’t get recommended):

- Fourth Wing by Yarros (1st was fine? 2nd terrible. Didn’t try the 3rd)
- The Poppy War by R.F Kwang (like it was okay but I just did not vibe with the characters?)
- Mistborn by Sanderson (someone dies and it PISSED me off. Liked the magic system tho)
- One Dark Window by Rachel Gillig (couldn’t vibe with characters)
- Daughter of No Worlds by Carissa Broadbent (magic system was non existent)
- Dungeon Crawler Carl (actually decent but I just could not get locked in. Maybe too weird for me?)
- Other popular romantasies (I usually DNF them so fast bc the characters are ridiculously dumb)

Sooooo anyone got anything?