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So my MIL watches our son every Wednesday when I go to work which I am extremely thankful for. She is a business owner and that is her only day off. My FIL works on Wednesdays but starts his work day at 1pm so he will come in the morning sometimes and then leave for work from our house.

In the last two months, my BIL(20) has been coming to our house on Wednesdays along with the rest of his family. My husband is also there but he works from home that day and this situation has been bothering me… I just feel like my space is being invaded even though I am not there. But also me being somehow adds to it even more as if they are playing house with my son and my husband while I am not there?

Overall my in laws are on the better side compared to some stories I have heard but there have been a few boundary issues in the past. A lot of those boundary issues were when I was freshly postpartum so I feel better and less intense about certain things (for example them kissing my son and calling him “my baby”). I think this situation is also just intensifying my feelings about them treating me like an incubator too and thinking they don’t really care about me. For example they order food in for lunch every Wednesday when all of them are there but never saved me any food or ordered me anything until the last couple weeks where I mentioned to my husband that my family always makes sure they bring something for him but his family never does.

So I guess two things I am asking - am I overreacting and if I am not, how do I word to my BIL to stop coming every week lol. I am okay like once every few weeks but every week is too much and he doesn’t clean up after himself.