Trying to understand why my dismissive avoidant tried to win me back after breaking up
We had been dating for a little over 9 months when I broke up with him due to his behaviors, probably self explanatory to this group. The biggest issue being that he just wasn't nice to me and never loved me in the way I needed despite me begging over and over, you all get it. Anyways, we did not of no contact and he continued to message me daily. Pining over me. Saying all the things I wanted to her, declarations of love that I had always wanted. With me minimally responding. I agree to see him eventually after about a month and he was all over me, giving me the attention and affection I had always craved since he took it away from me after the first couple months of dating. I thought maybe he had changed and i started giving him the time of day again. The moment I did that, I felt his energy completely shift. He became cold and distant again and started saying he actually wasn't sure anymore because there were things about me that caused him to feel less excited about the idea of dating me. This happened slowly over the course of a couple weeks. I tried to explain to him that he's not gonna work because the reason we broke up is because he acted like he didn't like me and now he is once again acting like he doesn't like me. The math is not mathing. My question is why is he hanging on and why the fuck did he just not leave me alone in the first place.??