Why do you think so many women above a certain age are seemingly terrified of transgender people?
For context I am a young man from England with a mum who has become very TERF-aligned over the past five years or so.
She brings up the topic several times a month, about how transgender people shouldn't be allowed in toilets etc. and it's so draining. More recently this has developed into anti-migrant fear too as she believes the people crossing the channel are pretending to be victims and actually just want to rape under 18s.
Nevertheless, she insists she is a feminist and thinks that men like me should stay out of these discussions because we are not affected in her eyes.
However, the more I learn about feminism, it seems like she isn't really one, or at least not a modern one. In a conversation fairly recently, she said that she thinks it is biological for men to want to dominate, rape, etc. and when I said that I think that's more of a cultural/patriarchal thing, I was told I was minimising the issue. So in a way it doesn't come across principled, but rather a blanket fear of men (including transgender women who are seen as men who are pretending to be women).
In so many ways she has been a great parent, but it has been really getting to me and I feel like she doesn't fully accept me bc I am a man. I was up for several hours last night unable to sleep because of this.
Why do you think this is how so many women of a certain age are? How can I be a good male feminist, and how can I navigate my relationship with my mum on this?