What Happened to Men Chasing Woman?
Salam girlies,
Just wanted to vent and see if anyone has had similar experiences, or advice..
I am currently in the process of looking to get married InshaAllah , im 23, graduated school, work full time in medicine, am religious and actively working to improve my deen inshaAllah. In person, i am a bit shy and i dont freemix or go out a lot aside from work and hanging out with family and occasionally friends. I attend Islamic lectures held by my local masajid. It’s been hard finding someone in person and to be honest, I lack confidence so I feel like no one will be interested in me compared to the other beautiful woman my age.
Anyways, long story short I posted on ISO. I’m Palestinian and also looking for a Palestinian. Many men have reached out to express interest, but the issue is when I reply back and we are getting to know eachother I am leading the conversation and as soon as I start asking questions, it’s like they cease to ask there’s or they will respond very dry when they were the ones who reached out first. And then when I stop responding (since there was nothing to respond to, no question, NO initiative) some will follow-up and say hello? or ask where I went. Which doesn’t make sense unless I am reading too much into it and they genuinely do not know what theyre doing. What happened to men chasing woman?? Showing interest?? Taking initiative?? Yearning?? Halal Conversations??
I know that it’s a two way street but it feels very one sided from my end at times and I feel unwanted, and discouraged even though they are the ones who reached out first to express interest.
I crave companionship and would love to get married but the more time passes I am getting concerned with what my future will look like. I will continue to make dua InshaAllah.
If you’ve read all of this, thank you and Jazakillah Khair.
edit: I do live in the US!