u/itsCloudberry

Hi, I don’t belong to this generation I feel like a loser at times for holding back.

The two times I have interacted with women now were on Instagram chat. The first one gave her handle through Shaadi app and the second one don’t even ask.

Both times I open up like a book and was serious about marriage. And they both were just passing time.

I feel low and broken having lost energy, I get attached too easily and it is not the case for them. They prolly have 10-15 people on their DMs saying good morning without any plans, men who just enter DM to pass time. Maybe I am judging

But what is this with girls wanting male attention.. bhao khana but why? Kyun acha lagta hai random people attention:(

Where is my wife :( God help me

I’m from an eastern state in India, but I grew up in the Middle East and am currently settled in Riyadh.
I’ve been looking for a spouse for about 10 months now, and honestly, it’s starting to hurt. I’ve tried Shaadi, Jeevansathi, and Muzz, but the moment people hear which state I’m from, I often get the same response: “Itna dur nahin de sakte beti ko.”
What I don’t understand is, we’re still talking about marrying within India. In 2026, does distance between states really matter that much? Personally, I don’t want to marry within my own state, but that seems to make the search even harder.
A bit about me. I’m 29, 6’0”, slightly overweight but working on it. I go to the gym regularly, enjoy video games and long walks, and I’d say I’m average looking. I come from a decent, respectable family, and Alhamdulillah, I’m financially stable.
Am I starting this search too early, or am I just stressing myself out? People here are getting married at 35 lol. Has anyone else, especially people from less represented states or those raised abroad, gone through something similar? I am going to DM few users now.

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

1. Age & Gender
29, Male, 6’0” (183 cm)

2. Preferred Age Range
22–26

3. Location & Relocation
Currently based in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. Insha’Allah, I plan to relocate back to India in roughly ten years — so the early years of marriage would be here in Riyadh.

4. Ethnicity & Openness
Indian, Sunni Muslim. Open to sisters of any ethnicity, but born Muslim only.

5. Marital Status
Single, never married

6. Ideal Marriage Timeline
Within one year, insha’Allah.

7. Key Qualities I’m Looking For
• Practising, with a sincere relationship with Allah
• Emotionally mature
• Kind and respectful
• Family-oriented
• Attractive
• Good character above all

8. Religiosity
Practising Muslim, alhamdulillah. I observe my salah and try to maintain a healthy balance between deen and dunya — striving to grow in both, without neglecting either.

9. Education
• B.Tech in Mechanical Engineering — NIT Rourkela
• M.Sc in Advanced Engineering Materials — University of Limerick, Ireland
A Bachelor’s is preferred but not mandatory. I value mindset, sincerity, and a willingness to keep learning more than titles.

10. Career
Automation Engineer in the food industry, based in Riyadh — on a stable, permanent contract, alhamdulillah.

11. Children
Yes, insha’Allah. I hope to raise them with strong Islamic values, in a home where deen and love go hand in hand.

12. Hobbies & Interests
• Fitness and sports — an active lifestyle is a big part of my routine
• Gaming and unwinding to Anuv Jain on loop
• Reading, business, and personal development

13. About Me
I was raised between Oman and Saudi Arabia, with our native roots in Odisha.

Alhamdulillah, I come from a close, supportive family of six. My parents are the foundation of who I am, and I have three siblings. established in finance, accounting, and medicine. Family is something I hold dearly, and I hope to build one of my own that carries the same warmth, insha’Allah.

I value honesty, clarity, simplicity, and family life. I’m someone who knows what he wants, takes responsibility seriously, and is intentional about growing professionally, personally, and most of all spiritually. I’m looking for a partner with whom I can build a peaceful home and walk this journey of serving Allah, side by side.
I speak English, Hindi, and Urdu.
My main objective is to build a happy, healthy family rooted in Deen, mutual respect, and love. May Allah facilitate all that is good for us.

Sisters (or their families) interested may DM. I’ll respond insha’Allah after a brief exchange.
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